Dating

When Talking Dirty Becomes too Much!

Dear T,

This may sound weird, but I’m going to ask for your advice anyway.  I’ve grown to really hate how this guy I’m seeing talks to me in the bedroom. When we are in the midst of having sex, he starts becoming super aggressive and saying things like “shut up and give daddy want he wants,” and “that’s right you’re my b**ch.” The thing is, this guy is super sweet and kind when we are doing everything else besides having sex.  And he is far from abusive.  So I don’t get why he changes up like this.  What are your thoughts?

From,

Not Amused

Dating, relationships

Should I Tell Him I Have an STD?

Dear T,

I have a dilemma, and I’m hoping you can help me out with it.  See, I’ve been dating this guy for about 2 months, and he finally told me he is ready to have sex.  I usually wouldn’t wait 2 months to have sex with someone I’m in a relationship or whatever with, but this guy is special.  Well before we take it there, he wanted us to get tested together.  Unfortunately, I just got my test results back and apparently I have syphilis.  Of course I’m going to get treatment, but am I obligated to tell this guy.  As long as I put off having sex, take the antibiotics, and get better, does he have to know?  Btw, his tests came back clean.

Curious Mike

Dating

Dos and Don’ts for Blizzard Preparation

Do

Hit that Grocery Store

The last thing Pizza Hut or the local Chinese food spot is trying to do, is deliver food to you all weekend in the midst of twenty feet of snow.  If you don’t want to go out in the bad weather to get the food, believe they don’t want to go out in the bad weather to give it to you.  So load up on stuff you can cook, or just whip up if the power goes out.  If you don’t cook, I suggest you load up on bread, deli meat, and stuff you can just pop in microwave.

Dating, relationships

Living Single…And I Want to Stay that Way!

 Dear T,

I’m going to try and be brief about this. Unlike all of my friends, I’m not in a relationship nor do I desire to be in one.  I enjoy my independence, and like being able to be with whoever I want, no strings attached.  But my friends just can’t accept I don’t want an official boo. I did the relationship thing, and I don’t miss it. This all brings me to my question. Is not wanting a relationship normal, and okay?

Thanks in advance,

King Kunta11

Dating

That First Time!!!

Hi T,

I heard about your blog from Instagram, and decided to hit you up since you keep things anonymous and all.  I’m not really out the closet or whatever yet, and don’t have friends I can ask about this whole gay lifestyle, so I’m coming to you.  Here’s the thing.  I’ve never had sex with a man.  I’ve always wanted to, but never did because I knew what that would mean.  But now since I have started to accept that I like men, I think I’m ready.  I started messaging back and forth with this guy I met on one of these apps, and we’ve been talking about meeting up.  Crazy thing is, I’m really nervous.  I probably shouldn’t be because I’ve had sex with girls, but I am.  So do you have any advice for a virgin gay?  I mean what was your first time like?

From,

Gay Cherry Poppin