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Thoughts on Orlando

Today like many of you, I find myself still stunned by the events that happened early yesterday morning. To think that someone would go into a nightclub with the intent of killing as many victims as they can spot is horrifying.  I remember all the times I’ve been to a gay nightclub with friends.  We were usually already a few drinks into our fun night, and we were worried about several things.  We worried about our final look entering into the club.  We worried about making it to the front of the line before the inflation price hits.  Heck, sometimes we even worried about sobering up for the bouncer at the front door.  But not once did we necessarily worry about our overall safety.  We never got nervous about a gunman busting through club doors, and spraying his bullets of hatred.  And after Sunday’s early travesty, I guess we have to worry about that now.

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Majoring in Me (Acceptance) is Officially Available

Hey Folks,

It’s here! It’s finally here! Majoring in Me (Acceptance) is now available for purchase. Wow that sounds so crazy for me to say.  What started out as some writing in a notebook about two years ago, is finally a published body of work.  To say I’m excited is an understatement.  But with my excitement comes a healthy dose of anxiety.  I’m not afraid to admit that to you all either.

Dating

Gay Dating While Christian

I hope you are doing great. I am writing because it seems like I am at a dead end and I am hoping your words might help me out.

Even though I have been in relationships with some amazing men and have been extremely happy, I never felt fulfilled. You see, I am a gay Christian. With that said, whenever I tell other gay men that I am a Christian it seems like they get scared and run off. At 27 years old and been in the dating pool, I now know what I want out of a partner but more than anything… I know what I need.  I would like someone that is also Christian, someone which will walk this road of faith with, someone that I can lean on for prayer and vice versa, but where else do I find such man? It’s not as if Christian Mingle has a section for us. I know yourself has a Christian faith, any words of advice.

Your fellow brother,

Let There Be Light.

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About Him is a Must Watch

 

So while I’ve never written about a web series before, I felt compelled to write about the new smash hit About Him.  Without hesitation or pause, I can genuinely say that this Signal 23 TV show represents some of the best original programming online.  Having only watched two episodes so far, I’ve been thoroughly impressed and entertained.

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Dear Straight People: Enough with the “Gay Shaming”

Dear Straight People,

It’s 2016, so in the name of progress, please stop “gay shaming.”  I’m sure some of you may be confused as to what exactly that is, so let me shed some light on the term.  You know those instances when you are in an argument with a guy and the two of you trading jabs, then you hit him with the “shut up with your gay a$$” or “stop being a queen”?  Well that’s gay shaming folks.  Or perhaps you’ve been guilty of accusing a man you don’t particularly care for of being homosexual because his voice wasn’t the deepest.  Or he took too much pride in his appearance.  Or he just wasn’t the epitome of masculinity.  For the purpose of this conversation, that’s “gay shaming.”  And to be honest, playing the “you’re gay” card is getting too old and too tired.

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Offensive Family Members

Dear T,

You can call me fed up, because that’s exactly what I am.  Although I’ve never really been in the closet, I just confirmed my family’s suspicions about a year and half ago.  Well since then, I have a great uncle that is the biggest asshole when I’m around him.  When I go to family functions, he is always there and is always making insulting jokes about me because I’m gay.  For example, the men love watching sports when we get together. Well when I sit down to watch football or basketball with them, my great uncle may say something like “you sure you won’t be more comfortable in the kitchen with the women,” or “these ain’t the soap operas nephew.”  I would feel embarrassed in these situations, but my other family seem horrified by his comments.  The thing is, no one checks him.  And I want to cuss him out so bad, but my mom told me to bite tongue and be the bigger person.  She says he’s old and he doesn’t know any better.  She also reminds me that he helps pay a lot of my tuition.  What do you think I should do?

From,

Fed Up

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Love and Hip Hop: Hollywood….The Story of Milan, Miles, and Amber

I found it necessary today to discuss something that I saw on TV last night.  For those of you that have had an opportunity to see Love & Hip Hop: Hollywood this season, then you are aware of gay couple Milan and Miles.  For those who haven’t seen it, I’ll offer this brief synopsis.  Openly gay rapper Milan is in a “secret” relationship with Miles, a rapper who happens to be closeted in terms of his sexuality.  Miles has a longtime friend and once girlfriend named Amber, that he hasn’t told he was gay until last night’s recent episode.  Apparently Amber had been hoping to reunite with Miles romantically sometime in the near future.  However after revealing who he is to her, Amber takes off running in tears and anger.  She then claims everyone was right about him, and proceeds to play a victim role for the rest of the episode.  Meanwhile, Miles appears to be sorry for hurting her. With all that said, allow me raise a few issues.

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I’m Gay and Mom Can’t Deal

Dear T,

It’s been a few months since I’ve come out to my mom, and things between us are still awkward.  Before I told her I like men, she and I used to be best friends.  We talked about almost any and everything (with the exception of my sexuality of course).  But now, it’s a miracle if we can hold a meaningful conversation without arguing about me being gay.  She thinks I’m in some faze, and is determined to see me out of it.  I keep telling her I am who I am and that’s not changing, but she doesn’t seem to get it.  I know my friends said I should just give her some time to adjust, but how long do I have to wait before I get my friend back?  And do you have any tips on how to get my mom to be okay with all of this?

Thanks,

Mama’s Boy 92

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The Mama Don’t Like Me

Dear T,

Last week I met my boyfriend’s mother for the first time.  Going into the meeting with her, I had high hopes that I would meet her and she would love me.  I mean most parents do.  But instead, she just threw me shade, and without saying so, she made sure I knew she didn’t care for me.  I asked my boyfriend what I did to offend her, but he says his mom just has to warm up to me.   Honestly, I’ve never heard that before.  I’m 29, have a college degree, a good job, my own place, and have a lot to offer.  And yet she doesn’t like me.  I thought maybe she didn’t like me because she doesn’t like the fact her son is gay, but my boyfriend says his mom has accepted his sexuality.  Oh and I was the first guy he has introduced as his boyfriend to his mother.   What are your thoughts?

Sincerely,

Charles No Barkley