friendship, relationships

My Best Friend Won’t Stop Judging Me Because I’m in a Throuple

Dear T,

I’m tired of my judgmental ass friend.  I mean I love how he’s protective of me, and has always been a ride or die, but for the past few months he has been making slick comments about my personal life. So about three months ago, my boyfriend and I decided to become a throuple with a great guy we both liked. The arrangement we have is really good, and I’m happy. You’d think my happiness is what my best friend would care about, but it’s not.

When I first told him about my situation, he told me it was a terrible idea. He said he couldn’t do it, and that it’s going to end badly with me single. I tried to explain to him that me and my boyfriends are good, but he believes this won’t work. I told him that I didn’t want to hear any more of that negative sh$t, and for a short while that worked. But then when I’d bring both boyfriends around him, he would be real shady to them. And when it’s just he and I, he asks messy questions like “who you like better?”, “who would you marry since you want a husband and legally can only have one?” Stuff like that.

I love my friend but what do I do about his judgment? It’s getting to the point where I thought about slapping his a$$.

-Keep Your Judgement

friendship

I Love My Best Friend but Not Her Homophobic Fiancé

Tavion,

I can’t stand my best friend’s trifling ass boyfriend, well now fiancé. There are a few things that piss me off about him. First, he acts real funny around me like I have the plague, and I’m pretty sure it’s because he’s homophobic. Me and best friend could be talking and laughing like we usually do in front of him, and he just has this resting b&tch face and stares. Now when we do see each other, he will dap me up or whatever, but it’s always awkward.

The second reason I don’t like him is because him and my best friend live together, but she pays most of the bills. I mean he does work, but he works at the UPS store and she has a good government job. They aren’t equally yoked.

The last reason I don’t like him is since they’ve been together, she just doesn’t have fun with me like she used to. Yeah we still laugh and talk on occasion, but we don’t go out. And when we do, it seems like she’s always rushing home to him.

My question is, am I crazy for feeling the way I do? And If not, how do I get my friend back?

-The Real Rider

friendship

I Think I Prematurely End My Friendships. What’s Wrong with Me?

I’d love to ask a question about friendship. I can expand upon it if you like, but I’ll give you a short synopsis. I’m about as standoffish and isolated as you can imagine, and I’ve got a hundred burning bridges behind me that attest to my commitment to compartmentalize.

I struggle with friendships generally, but my short & long term friendships frequently end. I could count on two hands the number of removed friends that I’ve stayed connected with.

I behave brashly when I think I’m wronged, and I am an escapist. I’m taking better care of myself these days, and I don’t want to carelessly allow my friends to drift away.

Can I improve my interpersonal relationships by any ethos that you might know of?

Thank you kindly,

J.K.

friendship

I Can’t Do Clubs Anymore, I’m a Homebody

T,

What the heck is wrong with being a homebody? I mean truly.  My friends complain from time to time that I never want to go out on the weekend.  Which is true.  However, I don’t really enjoy it anymore.  I’ll go out on the rare occasion, but I just don’t want to be a regular these days.  Why should I pay to have a mediocre time hanging out, when I can have a good time hanging at home for free?  Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends and spending time with them, but I just rather hang out with them at my place, their place, or even a happy hour.  Anywho, what are your thoughts?

-Get Me Home

Personal Revelations, Tavion Scott the Author

“Do You Know What Today Is?”… It’s My Anniversary

Happy Thursday Folks!  Today marks an amazing day for me, because it is officially According to T’s anniversary.  A year ago today, I answered my first question and posted my first response.  It’s crazy to think that I’ve been blogging for 12 months.  You all have to understand, I wasn’t sure I’d be doing this for a few months let alone for a year.  I kind of thought I was running with this crazy idea that people wouldn’t buy into or understand.  So I’m thankful for all the support and positive vibes I received from site visitors and those seeking advice.  It’s honestly quite humbling.