friendship

My Friend Is Dating a Guy in Jail and I’m not a Fan

T,

I need someone to tell me I’m not crazy. My best friend has been real secretive about who he’s been dating lately, so I thought it was weird. At first he was trying to act like he wasn’t talking to anybody, but I know my friend.  I know when he’s talking to a guy. Call me nosey or whatever, but I kept pressing him about it and he finally told me he’s dating a guy I’ll call Joe.

Then he started telling me he’s never met Joe but it’s been like four months. I thought maybe he was on some long-distance type of stuff, and my friend said it’s basically long distance. When I asked when he and Joe would meet up, my friend said it would be a few more months because Joe is currently locked up. I couldn’t believe it. I couldn’t believe he started dating a man while dude is locked up.

I want better for my friend. He’s never been in a good relationship or even talked to a good guy before. And I don’t think this guy is going to help him break his trend, and I don’t want my friend heartbroken. I told him to reconsider, but he won’t listen. He actually gets pissed if I bring him up. I know you may tell me to mind my business, but I want to protect my friend.

Thanks for your help,

The Concerned Bestie