relationships

Hop Off His Ride So You Can Think!

Dear T,

I think I’m addicted to my ex-boyfriend/current boyfriend depending on the day.  We have been off and on for about 3 and half years now.  We will be good for about 2 months, and then all of a sudden he will do something that pisses me off and cause me to want to break up with him.  I mean he’s lied to me, cheated on me, and he can be so immature sometimes.  However, he also makes me laugh like no other, and he has given me some of the best surprises I’ve ever received.  Plus, the sex with him is beyond amazing.  I mean I’ve been with other guys, but none of them even come close to this man in the bedroom.  My friends say great surprises and mind blowing sex aren’t everything, and if me and the ex break up as often as we do, maybe I should move on.  But I can’t bring myself to let him go.  Say I move on and find another guy that doesn’t cheat, is mature, and always treats me right, but the sex is terrible.  I think if I work with the ex and help him grow up a little, I will have my perfect man.  Please tell me what you think?

Dream Catcher89

relationships

While He’s Flirting, I’m Jealous

 Dear T,

My damn boyfriend is driving me crazy.  As much as I love him, lately I’ve been wanting to kick his ass.  When I tell you he is biggest flirt, I mean it.  He’ll flirt with members at the gym, employees at the grocery store, waiters at any restaurant, and men on IG.  When I mention the problem I have with his flirting, he always respond the same way.  “Babe you know I’m not cheating, I love you.”  And then my personal favorite, “You know I’m just a natural flirt, it means nothing.  Don’t you trust me?”  I mean I do trust him, but man.  What do you think I should do here?

From,

Angry Bey

Dating, friendship

Breaking out of “The Friend Zone”

Hi T,

I have a question for you.  Is it really impossible to get out of the friend zone?  I have this good friend that I’ve been cool with for about 4 years, and I want more than friendship.  When he and I first met, it was at a mutual friend’s birthday party.  I remember initially thinking at that party how sexy he was, and that I wanted to sleep with him bad.  However, we wound up just talking that night and built a really great platonic relationship.  Since then, we’ve been in the friend zone.  And it’s not like I’ve been pining away for him for four years or anything.  I’ve dated other guys, but it’s never worked out with any of them.  He on the other hand, has been in a relationship with some dude for 2 years.  Although, word on the street is his boyfriend has been cheating on him.  I guess that’s beside the point.  Anyway, do you think I should risk our friendship and tell my friend how I feel about him?  I was actually thinking of a plan to tell him about his boyfriend sleeping around on him, comfort him for a week or two, then make my move.  I appreciate the help.

Thankfully,

Gay Cleveland Brown.

relationships

You, Me, and IG Makes Three!

Dear T,

I’ve peeped out your advice a few times now, and like what you’ve had to say. So I decided to hit you up and ask you a question. Lately I’ve been noticing my boyfriend post a lot of pics on Instagram I think are disrespectful to our relationship. He’s posted pics of him flexing shirtless, pics of him from the bathroom after a shower, and even posted one of those eggplant Friday things. Other guys know he’s in a relationship with me (we post ourselves together all the time), but still leave suggestive comments under his photos. And he never checks these guys. He also likes a lot of photos of men he has only met through Instagram. I honestly want to check his DM inbox to see if anything is going on. This all makes me so uncomfortable. How can I stop him from committing all these Instagram fouls?

Signed,

Gonna Choke A Bytch Very Soon

friendship

Supporting What Doesn’t Make Sense!

Dear T,

My best friend has been in a relationship with this guy for about 6 months now, and I can’t stand him.  For the life of me, I cannot understand why they are still together.  There are plenty of reasons for my friend to dump this guy.  For starters, this guy claims to be in between jobs, and has been taking money from my friend for a month.  Then there is the fact that the guy constantly talks to my friend about being too feminine.  When I’m around them both, my friend tries to butch up and be something he’s not.  And to top it all off, dude has cheated on my friend.  I keep telling my friend to dump his ass, but he can’t let him go.  How long am I expected to tolerate this man and not cuss him out?  I appreciate the advice.

Thanks,

Angry Woe

relationships

Before You Tell Him “To the Left, To the Left.”

Dear T,

Would you stay with someone if they cheated on you?  I’ve been with this man for 2 years, and last week he told me while he was at this house party with his boys, he let some little young THOT suck his peen.  When I asked him how could he do that, he copped out and blamed it on the liquor and peer pressure.  No lie, a grown ass man gave me the peer pressure excuse.  However, I will say he seemed genuinely sorry and reassured me he would never do this to me again.  I told my friends what happened, and they all told me to dump him.  I just don’t know if I want to do that, because I still really love him.  So please, hook me up with some advice.

Thanks a bunch,

John Doe13

Dating

This Man Is Not Yours to Have

 Dear T,

I’ve been seeing this man for about 3 months now.  He’s everything I’ve wanted.  He’s cute, has banging body, has a great job, makes me laugh, and the sex with him on a scale from 1 to 10 is an 11.  The only thing is, the guy is married and has no plans in the near future to get a divorce from his wife.  He told me he didn’t want to get a divorce right now because he didn’t want to do that to his two young kids.  However, he always makes himself available to me.  We don’t really go on dates around town, but he comes over to my place often and takes me on trips.  Lately though, I’ve just been feeling our relationship the way it is, isn’t enough.  I want more.  I want to go out in public on dates. I want to be able take pictures with my boyfriend.  I want to roll over in the middle of the night to him sleeping peacefully, instead of him making a mad dash for the exit to get home.  Plus, I’m starting to feel bad for his wife.  I guess I’m writing to ask what do you think I should do?  I’ve asked my friends, but I don’t think they get it.

From,

Oliver Pope