The Lifestyle

“I’m Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired”

It’s been a few days now since the tragic deaths of Alton Sterling, Philando Castile, and the five police officers in Dallas, and I haven’t posted anything on the site partially in an attempt to gather my thoughts.  If you stroll through my social media pages, you’ll will see short blurbs and videos expressing my outrage over what has happened within the last week.  However, I’ve yet to publicly state my peace on the matter.  And so here I am today.  Saddened by the state of this country, angered by moral hypocrisy and ignorance, and humbled to be among the living of an endangered people.

The Lifestyle

Should I Tell Her the Man She’s with Is Gay?

Hey T,

I’ve got a question for you.  Would you allow your cousin to marry a guy you know for a fact is gay?  My cousin, who is a female and I’m very close with, just got engaged to this man I know used to mess with one of my of old college roommates, who is a guy.  Although these two men were never in a relationship, and this was almost ten years ago, I feel like I should mention to my cousin that her future husband has slept with at least one man.  Thoughts?


Stuck with No Answer


Am I Wrong for Wanting a Prenup?

Dear T,

So after 2 years with my baby, I’m finally ready to pop the question.  I want to go before the justice of the peace, exchange rings, and say I do.  The only thing is, having talked about the idea of marriage with my boyfriend, we don’t agree on the idea of a prenup.  If we were to get married, I would have to have a prenup.  God forbid we get married then divorce, I just want us to walk away from the marriage with what we had before going into it.  No alimony and no mess.  He on the other hand thinks that a prenup is like some curse on a marriage.  He thinks signing one means the marriage is doomed to fail.  Since we are both pretty grounded in our perspectives, how do you think we should proceed going forward in our relationship?

Thanks in advance,

Wanna Keep My Coin