What do you do if your partner is attracted to thicker men with beards?
Dear John G,
Thanks for writing to me. Since your letter is rather brief, I’ll be quite brief with my response. The fact your partner is attracted to thicker men with beards, just means your boyfriend shares his taste in men with millions of people across the world. If you haven’t heard, folks all around the globe have bought into the “Zaddy” craze. Heck if I’m honest, I know I don’t mind looking at a good looking thick guy with a healthy beard.
Look, I’m sure you already know but it’s worth mentioning, just because a guy enters a relationship doesn’t mean he develops a blindness to attractive people. That’s just not how it works. No person should enter into coupledom thinking that will be the case. And to be clear, I don’t think an individual’s attraction to someone else is necessarily the gateway to infidelity.
There are plenty of folks in relationships that find themselves attracted to other people, but wouldn’t dare cheat on the partner they love. Trust me, single people aren’t the only ones who have their monkeys jump at the sight of David Banner, Winston Duke, G. Garvin, and Michael B. Jordan (his thickness is debatable, but fine nonetheless). Again, being boo’d up doesn’t mean you blackout your vision to other people.
Suggestions going forward.
- Don’t be so concerned with your partner’s attraction to other people. As long as he’s not pursing that attraction and creeping on you, then I don’t see the problem.
- Remember that your boyfriend is with you, which leads me to believe he’s attracted to you. So don’t feel threatened.
As always nothing but love,