Hey there folks! Today I wanted to take a quick minute to discuss relationship seeking. See, people claim they’ve been searching high and low for a good man to lock down into a relationship. However, I can’t help but to question some of those that have been on this long quest for true love. Hear me out on this before you judge.
My hunch is that many folks claiming to have a desire to be in a relationship, really are just seeking intimate companionship. They really want a man or woman around to occasionally be a sound board for their problems, to make them laugh on a bad day, and give them some good nookie and cookie. But the deepness of a relationship, and all the work it requires, these individuals just aren’t prepared for or desire to handle. They don’t want all the attached strings.
Let’s view it like this. Buying a house is a big deal. Many individuals would place buying a house on their bucket list of life accomplishments. When they finally save enough to purchase their first home, they feel a since of pride. However, what some homeowners find out, is that owning a home requires more work than they bargained for. It requires spending money on property taxes, lawn care, and numerous upkeep costs (i.e. water heater, bursts pipes, roof patches, etc.). It’s these costs that have some begging to get out their home buying deal, and others content renting their apartment or condo for a long while. Renters love just having a place to call theirs temporarily, but relish in the quick option to get out if need be.
Bringing this around full circle now. Again, some people secretly rather have intimate companionship, because a relationship requires too much work, like owning a house. Relationships require folks to compromise, to listen, to be patient, to say I’m sorry, to weather arguments, and more. Some people just aren’t ready for any of that. What they really want is a “steady” without all the strings attached. They call a man up from time to time to hang out, but there is no expressed monogamous commitment. And there is nothing wrong with that. I’m just pointing out a fact.
Look, if you do some soul searching and realize you aren’t ready for a relationship like you’ve been professing across social media, that’s fine! Keep dating with the intention of dating, not to become boo’d up. Eventually a light bulb will go off in your mind to let you know when you are ready for the rollercoaster ride of coupledom. That light bulb may go off when you come to a better understanding about your needs or wants. Or it may go off when you unexpectedly come across the love of your life. Just don’t rush to get out of singledom if you aren’t ready.
Well, that’s all I have for now. But hey, if you have questions. Hit me up!