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“I Do.” Marriage Equality is Finally here

Hey all,

I know you guys are used to me handing out advice; but, today I felt the need to discuss the U.S. Supreme Court’s recent verdict on same-sex marriage.  Believe it or not, I, as a black gay man, I once stood in opposition to the issue.  Shocking I know!    However, back in the day I really didn’t accept myself as gay; and therefore; couldn’t accept the idea that two people of the same sex should be married.  Additionally, I’m Christian and due to some teachings, I had a hard time conceptualizing God’s approval of LGBT marriages.  However, after some soul searching, prayer, and self-evolution into the man I am today, I realized how WRONG I was.  We in the LGBT community have a right to love who we want to love, and marry who we want to marry. And, I don’t believe it’s anyone’s job to play God in deciding what’s acceptable under the umbrella of love and marriage.  But I do believe it’s everyone’s job to acknowledge basic civil rights, and the U.S. Supreme Court seems to agree.

As you all probably know by now (unless you’ve been trapped in a bunker with no phone or internet service), the Supreme Court finally declared the Constitution actually guarantees a nationwide right to same-sex marriage.  That means same-gender loving couples across this country can get married in any state they want to, and have it recognized everywhere in the U. S. of A.  I don’t know what’s crazier.  The fact that I’m actually able to say that, or the fact it took until 2015 for me to be able to say that.  Regardless of the lengthy process and journey it took for America to finally get it right, the fact remains, marriage equality is here baby!!!

Even though I’m elated by today’s court decision, and extremely proud and thankful to the many that lent a hand to the movement that made it happen, I can’t help but wonder about the struggle and fights that still lie ahead for this issue.  For instance, will some ignorant county clerks or idiotic city administrators find ways to lose applications for marriage licenses of same-sex couples, in an effort to stall or prevent their union?  Or will some adoption agencies find new and creative ways to discriminate against LGBT couples now that they are able to lawfully wed?  And what about those Americans that are still stuck in their backward thinking, and have no intention on clearing the way to the alter for gay and lesbian partners?  And I’m NOT a Debbie Downer or anything. I promise.  I just realize the history of injustice in the face of justice in this country.  If the civil rights fights for people of color is any indication, there is still some journey left in regards to this issue.

Look on a lighter note, I encourage my LGBT brothers and sisters not to be so quick to date someone and make a mad dash to the alter just because we can now LOL!  Everyone should still take their time in getting to know a person and building a relationship.  That way, should you one day decide to get married, this landmark decision and the love you and your boo share will be that much more meaningful. Well looks like I’m offering some advice today after all!

As always nothing but love,


P.S. The Supreme Court is doing its thing as of late.  “Obamacare” upheld, and now this.  Well alrighty then! Yay democracy!

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2 thoughts on ““I Do.” Marriage Equality is Finally here”

  1. D.C. Marvelous says:

    This was spot on right here!!!! Love it! Love wins!

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