Dating, relationships

Dating Someone that Won’t Give Up the Goods

Dear T,

I started talking to this guy about two weeks ago, and while on a date this past weekend he revealed to me he is celibate.  And he plans to be that way until he has been dating a person for at least 6 months.  As someone that happens to really like sex, I asked him some follow up questions.  First, I wanted to know if that meant just penetration sex or everything.  He said ideally it meant everything but kissing, hugging, and a little groping every now and then.  I then asked him if six months was a definite time span or was he flexible.  The guy claimed he wasn’t really flexible with the six months.  Which leaves me in this bind.  I like the dude, a lot actually, but six months is a long damn time without penetration.  Especially if I’m not getting any oral play either.   Hell, a person can only play with own meat so many times before it gets old. What would you do in this situation?

Sincerely,

Not a Hoe, Just a Man

Dating, relationships

Where is My Boo?

T I’m just going to jump right into this.   I’m sick of being single, and I’m tired of being what my cousin calls a serial dater.  I thought about this last night, and I haven’t been in a real relationship in almost 3 years.  And hell, my last relationship lasted a whopping 4 months.  What is it going to take for me to get a bae?  I have great career, nice place to live, and like to think I’m cute.  Definitely not a boogawolf.  And don’t really have hard time getting men to the bed.  Just a hard time keeping them there longer than a few weeks.  Hoping you can help me out with some words of wisdom or whatever to land a man.  Oh and FYI, I already asked my friends what they think I’m doing wrong.  They basically said, “man you’re a good catch, the perfect guy is out there for you.”  My response was “B$tch where?” Anyway, any help would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance,

Booless in the City.

Dating

Lopsided Dating…He’s Not that into You

Dear T,

I’m in a dating situation that seems lopsided.  I’ve been talking to this guy for about 6 weeks, and whenever we talk, most of the time it’s because I initiated the conversation.  And the few occasions he does text or call me, it’s at night and always winds up being sexual.  I try to get to know things about him, and I don’t even think he’s asked me anything about where I went to school or where I grew up.  I thought maybe perhaps he is a little bad at dating, so I’ve been trying to be patient with him and stick it out.  But my sister told me to cut my losses because the guy is just not that into me.  What do you think?

Signed,

Need to Know

Dating, friendship

Playing with Fire…..Dating a Friend’s Ex

Dear T,

Please don’t judge me, but I think I have a thing for my best friend’s ex.  My best friend and this guy broke up nearly 3 years ago, and I hadn’t seen the ex until about 2 months ago.  That’s when the guy started working in my office. Since then, we naturally started talking and have even become cool. And my best friend knows this. What he doesn’t know, is that his ex has started flirting with me heavy. And if I’m honest, I like it because I like him.  But, my mind keeps telling me that I can’t go there for the sake of my friendship. However, I’m tired of denying my feelings for this guy. Plus, my friend has moved on and has a good man. What do you think I should do?

Sincerely,

Playing with Fire

relationships

Am I Stuck on Stupid?

Dear T,

I have a problem.  I’m in still in love with my ex, and I want him back.  We broke up about a year ago because he cheated on me.  When I found out what he did I was devastated, and couldn’t talk to him for a minute.  But over the past month, we’ve started talking again, and the feelings between us are still there.  Am I stupid to want to be with him again?

Sincerely,

Stupid in Love

Dating, relationships

Can I Tell Him He’s Bad in Bed?

Hey T,

Straight and to the point, how do you tell someone you’re dating they are bad in bed?  Been dating this guy for about a month now, and a few days ago we had sex for the first time.  He is extremely sexy, great personality, and very real, so I want us to work out.  But I don’t know if I can be with someone that is terrible at pleasuring me.  Thanks in advance for the advice.

Anonymously,

Jeffrey Doe

Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

Who Picks Up the Check?

Dear T,

Quick question for you.  I’m a man and I’ve started dating men, but I’m slightly confused about the gay dating protocol.   Since we are two men, who pays when we go out?  I mean when I was dating women, I usually would pay because I grew up thinking that was the gentlemen thing to do.  Anyway, your advice is appreciated.

From,

Adam4Adam’90

relationships

Hop Off His Ride So You Can Think!

Dear T,

I think I’m addicted to my ex-boyfriend/current boyfriend depending on the day.  We have been off and on for about 3 and half years now.  We will be good for about 2 months, and then all of a sudden he will do something that pisses me off and cause me to want to break up with him.  I mean he’s lied to me, cheated on me, and he can be so immature sometimes.  However, he also makes me laugh like no other, and he has given me some of the best surprises I’ve ever received.  Plus, the sex with him is beyond amazing.  I mean I’ve been with other guys, but none of them even come close to this man in the bedroom.  My friends say great surprises and mind blowing sex aren’t everything, and if me and the ex break up as often as we do, maybe I should move on.  But I can’t bring myself to let him go.  Say I move on and find another guy that doesn’t cheat, is mature, and always treats me right, but the sex is terrible.  I think if I work with the ex and help him grow up a little, I will have my perfect man.  Please tell me what you think?

Dream Catcher89