Dating

I Thought He Was Perfect Until I Found Out about His Wife

Dear T,

The guy who I thought was damn near perfection turned out to be liar, and I’m so pissed.  After a month of being so geeked and excited to find a guy that’s cute, smart, and driven, it all ended when I found out this jerk is married to a woman. It doesn’t really matter how I found out, but just know it’s a small world. I confronted the guy and he tried to act like it’s not what it seems.  He said him and his wife have some type of weird arrangement. Like I told him, the hell I look like trying to be with a man that’s already in a relationship. Anyway, the question I have for you, is why do I feel curving him was a mistake? Why do I low key want to keep seeing this man? Like an idiot I legit almost called him yesterday. Thoughts needed.

-Descendant of a King

Dating

I Thought We Were Vibing, Then I Found out About His Girlfriend

 Hey T.,

I have to admit that you give the best advice – I’ve been reading your page for a week and I’m already in love.

Two weeks ago, I went to a coffee shop with two of my friends and while we were having fun, I noticed that the waiter was interested in me. I kept playing with him as I had just broken up with my boyfriend and when I went to the bathroom with my friends, he came in and told me that he liked me but he was 10 years older than me. The next week I went back there and we exchanged numbers. Two days after that we went on a date and we ended up kissing. We talked a little over the next few days on the phone and I went back there after 5 days and he was totally flirting me and we made out again. He wanted to go out with me again but he cancelled our date because of his job. This afternoon I found some pictures of him and a girl on Facebook and I asked him if he was in a relationship and he replied yes, that our “thing” didn’t mean to be something special and that he’d rather I didn’t tell his gf about us. What should I do?

-Confused

relationships

I Want to Say I Do, But He Won’t Ask the Question

T,

I’m at a cross roads in my life, and could use some help from you. I’m going on two years in my relationship with my boyfriend, and I’m in a headspace where I’m ready to take the next step.  I’m talking marriage.  The thing is, the two of us had a conversation about marriage, and he has no plan to get hitched anytime soon.  I guess I’m perplexed as to what to do. My one best friend thinks I should consider moving on if marriage is something I really want.  But how do I throw away two years?  I love this man and love the time we spend together.  Thoughts?

Best Regards,

Seeking Matrimony