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I’ve Lost Weight and My Boyfriend Gained Insecurity

Hi T,

I’ve been reading through your site and thought you had some good advice so I’m going to try this out. I’m having a problem with my boyfriend that’s really getting on my nerve lately. To give you a little background, over the past six months I’ve lost about 48 lbs and look the best I have in a minute. My boyfriend was initially very support of the weight loss, but over the last few weeks he’s gotten super clingy and possessive. I just don’t know where any of this is coming from. Appreciate the insight.

-New Me, But Not Who Dis

P.S., we’ve been together for over a year.

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I’m Thicker and Hate it!

Dear T,

I’m just going to put it on the table.  I’m extremely uncomfortable being naked around my partner.  We’ve been together for about 8 months, and I’ve put on about 18 pounds.  Yes 18.  Heck, the number of pants I can fit these days are few.  While on one hand I’m kind of happy about the butt I never had starting to grow, I can’t deal with the extra stomach.  The love handles aren’t sexy to me.  Now my boyfriend says I’m still sexy to him, and even sexier now that there is a little more cushion for the pushin.  Ironically, I don’t feel confident like I use to during sex. I wear a shirt and the lights stay off.  I know I should go on an Herbal Life slim down or something, but what do I do in the meantime.  It took 8 months to put on the weight, so I know it will take some time to lose it.  Appreciate the help.

Gettin Thick

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My Weight, Our Problem

Dear T,

Should I expect my boyfriend to still want to be with me if I’ve gained weight since we first started dating?  I mean we still love each other, but I have put on about 30 pounds in the 1 ½ years we’ve been together.  And I’ve noticed we don’t have sex as often, but not sure if I should chalk that up to my weight or not.  Your advice would be appreciated.

From,

Lil Thicker

Dating

Confidence is Sexy!

Hey T,

I’m going to try and keep this brief. Since social media has become such a big thing now, I’ve become increasingly more insecure. Men are posting pics of themselves with their rippling abs, their superman chests, their Hulk like arms, and their huge legs and butts that can crack walnuts. And then I look at me. Standing at 6’2″, weighing 240, with a medium/large build, a keg for a stomach, and a butt barely visible. Thankfully I’ve been told I have a nice smile and dimples. But honestly, how is a guy like me supposed to catch someone with mini versions of Captain America and the Black Panther walking around out here?

Sincerely,

D.C. Marvelous

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I Didn’t Sign Up for the Extra Weight

Dear T,

Over the years my boyfriend has really gotten out of shape. I don’t understand how someone could let themselves go like this. When we first met he was ripped and chiseled. Now he’s sporting a beer gut. I’m no longer attracted to him but I don’t want to break his heart. What should I do?

Signed,

No Fats No Fems