I Asked My Boyfriend to Move In, But He Won’t Pay Any Bills

Hey T,

Addicted to your blog lol. But imma keep this short and to the point. So my current boyfriend and I have been together collectively 8 years. We recently decided to date again because we both feeling each other. I mean you know how the story goes. Well we had the talk about moving into my house so we took that step. Of course after being single and living alone took some adjustment.

I’m not one that thinks roles and labels play a significant part in a relationship. Because at end of day we both are men. I feel the responsibilities should be shared equally so all the pressure or stress isn’t on one person. I don’t believe because you’re a top and he’s a bottom you should be paying for everything.

So for the last four months, I have been footing all of the rent. All of utilities. Groceries. Car payment (that he drives cause he doesn’t have one).  Insurance. We haven’t been sexual at all, and I find myself getting annoyed all the time with the smallest shit that he does. He breathes hard and I want to smack him. Now we have had talked and he said he would help, but umm that hasn’t yet. How do I express myself without being the BITCH I’m known to be? How can I mend the brokenness that is my heart and relationship? Or do I just throw the entire relationship away and start over?

-A Broken Man


My Friend Hates My Man Tracks


My friend just pissed me off, and I’m hoping you can help. I recently got man tracks installed and I thought I looked good. But when I asked him what he thought, he told me I look ‘foolish’. Then asked me why I would do this. I didn’t tell him initially, but what he said made me mad. Don’t I have a reason to be upset here though? What would you do if you were in my shoes?

-Head and Shoulders

The Lifestyle

The 2015 Year End Roundup

Hey folks,

As 2015 winds down and 2016 vastly approaches, there are a few things I wanted to share with you all. I want to thank you all for visiting According to T. When I started this blog in May of this year, I wasn’t sure what to expect. I had dreams it would become this great site, but I secretly was nervous it was going to fail. Call it the pessimist in me. Well thanks to you the readers, According to T is steadily growing and I’m grateful. It feels good to know that people not only visit my blog, but enjoy the content and are appreciative my little nuggets of wisdom. Going forward, I hope to provide you all with even better material next year. Because most of what I post is contingent upon questions you all ask, make sure you get those into me. Remember, no subject is off limits and everything is kept Anonymous. So here’s to 2016! Before I say bye to 2015, let me leave you all with my year end round-up.

The Lifestyle

Firing Off Friday: Good R&B Is Back

Welcome to another rendition of Firing Off Friday.  This week I actually want to celebrate the resurgence of real and good R&B music back into mainstream America.  In a music genre that is marred by lower album sales, allegations of unauthenticity, and claims of stunted creativity, it’s good to see some musicians deliver quality projects that defy such low expectations.  Three artists in particular have really stood out to me.