Dating

I Really Like Him, But He Won’t Go Below Sea Level

Hello Tavion,

As always great advice and articles. I was wondering if you could help me with something. I met an amazing guy that I had enjoy spending my time with. I am content with how things are progressing with our relationship. Although we aren’t sexually active yet, we’ve talked about it and had a few close encounters. My concern is that he is not into fellatio and I very much enjoy it. Should that be a deal breaker or how can we work around it? Again, it is something I thoroughly enjoy.

– Let’s Make A Deal

Dating

I’m Always Picking Up the Check, and I Hate It!

Hey T,

Do you think it’s fair that this guy I’ve been seeing always expects me to pick up the check when we go out?  We’ve only been dating for about 3 weeks, and no matter where we go, he expects me to pay for both of us.  I’m getting tired of it.  He never offers to pay.  Don’t get me wrong, I have the funds to pay, I just don’t feel like it should be on me to do so every time.  Especially when he is a grown man.  What would you do in this situation?

From,

No Moocher

Dating

He Wants to be Intimate, But He Smells

Hello folks!  Today I would like to talk about something slightly uncomfortable for some, and quite entertaining for others.  While speaking with a Facebook friend yesterday, the conversation veered to the topic of musty undercarriage. Now undercarriage in this sense refers to the fun stick and dingle berries, as well as the booty.  And my Facebook friend and I briefly discussed what you do when you encounter an undercarriage that is anything but fresh.  I for one had a few suggestions if ever caught in that scenario, so I decided to share five excuses you can do if ever caught in a similar situation.  So take a look for yourself, and feel free to thank me later. LOL!

Personal Revelations, The Lifestyle

Intimate Convos with Tavion: Introduction to Gay Culture 101

As I’ve already shared in previous posts, when I first came out to my gay bestie, he gave me what I call my “Gay Immersion” course.  He educated me on gay social networks like BGC Live and Adam4Adam (BGC/A4A).  He introduced me to the good, bad, and ugly of the gay club scene (Gay Clubbing).  And he showed me my first gay television shows in Noah’s Arc and The DL Chronicles, and first gay film in Noah’s Arc: Jumping the Broom.  Besides the aforementioned things, he also gave me lessons on some slightly more important aspects of gay culture.

Dating

That First Time!!!

Hi T,

I heard about your blog from Instagram, and decided to hit you up since you keep things anonymous and all.  I’m not really out the closet or whatever yet, and don’t have friends I can ask about this whole gay lifestyle, so I’m coming to you.  Here’s the thing.  I’ve never had sex with a man.  I’ve always wanted to, but never did because I knew what that would mean.  But now since I have started to accept that I like men, I think I’m ready.  I started messaging back and forth with this guy I met on one of these apps, and we’ve been talking about meeting up.  Crazy thing is, I’m really nervous.  I probably shouldn’t be because I’ve had sex with girls, but I am.  So do you have any advice for a virgin gay?  I mean what was your first time like?

From,

Gay Cherry Poppin

Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

Be a Top’s kind of Bottom, and A Bottom’s Kind of Top.

Dear T,

I’m just starting to try this whole gay thing out, and I was wondering if you could offer me some tips.  I’ve been in a two month long relationship, and have yet to have sex.  As I prepare to take that step with my boyfriend, I’m seeking some advice.  Like what advice would you offer to someone that wants to be a great bottom?  And actually, what advice would you offer to someone that wants to be a great top?  I think I have an interest in being versatile.

Thanks for the help,

Gay Virgin96