Your Self-Worth Shouldn’t Be Tied to Your Relationship

Hi T,

I don’t know from where to start.  Today I came to know my boyfriend is cheating on me.  We are in long distance relationship and he is 7 years younger than me.  It’s been a 3 year relationship, and he used to live with me in the early years but he moved away last year.  Problem started 3 days ago when he didn’t take interest in our conversations, and kept quite the whole time.  I asked him was there any problem and if he still loved me, but he didn’t answer and we fought more n more.  And my health is also not good at this point and time.

He called me today and told me he cheated on me with his dance class student.  I was shocked because he is a very lovable and simple boy who loves me a lot.  He gave me so much respect and love I can’t tell you how happy I was with him, but suddenly this happens.  As far as I understood, this all happened because our long distance problem.  We used to be very happy and want to marry, but now he is saying he is in love with that girl.

Please suggest to me what I should do.  I really don’t want to lose him.  This is my second relationship and if this broke I’ll do something to myself.  Please guide me what to do.



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Intimate Convos with Tavion: Coming Out Part I

I haven’t really talked a lot about my experiences coming out, so I thought I’d start sharing.  When I finally came to accept myself for who I truly am after years of denial, depression, and self-hate, I decided that I would slowly start to tell some of those closest to me of my truth.  I figured if I’m going to live my adult life the way I want to, I can’t do that by being unauthentic to those I call besties and family.  One of the first ones up on my coming out tour was my college bff.