I’m having a slight issue with my friends about the guy I’m dating. Don’t judge me but I started talking to this guy about three months ago, so yes during the pandemic, but I’ve been careful. Anyway, this guy is amazing so far. His communication is great, he makes me laugh, cooks some good food, and the sex is on point. There’s just one thing. He’s younger than me, and sometimes it shows. I’m 36 and he’s 22, and our taste in music is different, we don’t necessarily watch all the same things, and I’ve lived more life and experienced more things. Also, I’m pretty sure if the clubs were open here he’d be in them, and I’ve outgrown that time of my life.
My friends think I’m just playing with this guy and having fun, and can’t believe I’m serious about him. But I really do like him and am interested in seeing where it goes with him, despite his somewhat immaturity at times. Sick of my friends’ judgment. Guess what I’m asking is do you think my friends are right? Is whatever we’re doing just a result of these pandemic circumstances?
-Have a Tenderoni
When I was a Freshman in College I ended up casually dating one guy I met through my sister back when we were maybe in 6 or 7th grade. Any who we have some history. Flash forward a couple of years I ended up meeting up with him in 2012-13.
We talked some, took me to the movies before he had a car or anything. Then we ended up sleeping together, I didn’t know that I was his first (until years later did I find out) .Well he was going to go off into the Marines and start a career there. I had just began my BA. A serious relationship during that time, wasn’t great. The timing was off.
So years later he comes back a Vet and I a Masters Student furthering my Edu. We have always kept contact and now he is my Personal Trainer. I have heard his stories of him sleeping with other women and I don’t mind a single man will be a single man, same as a woman (enjoy que no?!).
I feel that he is trying to seduce me. We text late at night and is always wants to know how I am doing. We even talked about sex between us and it usually never get serious other than just messaging another about the occasional “is we had sex how what are my rules and such”. We both know we can’t have any serious relationship since we are both focused on our own path, would it be awkward if I have sex with him and keep him as my trainer?
I am stumped and can’t seem to decide what I am doing here. I tend to just go with the texts since its nice to get a break from working and things could be spicer in the sheets. But again, I haven’t slept with another man in 5 years so there’s that (came out of a long relationship 6 months ago ).
Just started training with him 2 months ago and I feel that sex is over the horizon!
To sleep with him or to not sleep with him and keep the PT relationship, that is the questions ?
Thanks for listening!
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My best friend told me about your blog, and I love it. That post about relationships vs companionship was good. I’m thinking you may be able to help me. I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month. We never had the relationship talk, and we both have been rocking with each other hard. However, I know I still flirt and talk with other guys. I thought he was doing the same, until he told me two nights ago that he loves me. I was blown, because I didn’t think we had gotten there yet. I didn’t want him to feel bad so I told him verbatim “awe, love ya.” But I don’t think I love him. I mean I could love him eventually, but I’m not there yet. I feel things between has gotten a lot more serious than I wanted it to right now. What do I do here to slow things down with this man without pissing him off and making him want to stop talking to me?
-I’m Not Ready for Love
I could use some of your help when you got a minute. I like dating older men. When I say older, I mean like dudes 15 or 20 years older than me in their 40s usually. Something about that salt and pepper in the beard, maturity, and dad muscles really just do it for me. So I’ve been dating this one man for about three weeks now. He’s mad cool, and I could actually see this going somewhere. Then I find out that he actually dated my one aunt back when they were in high school. Like they legit went out together. I may be bugging, but once I found that out I put him on pause. I haven’t answered his calls or messages. I just can’t date someone that’s gone out with a relative. Especially my aunt. I love that lady like a second mother. But I really did like they guy. What would you do if you were me?
-Mr. Unwanted Triangle
I don’t have a major problem to ask you about, but more like a minor situation. I’ve been dating this guy about a month, and Christmas is approaching. I’m not sure if I should be trying to buy him a gift or not. While we aren’t official yet, we’ve been on several dates, and I haven’t been talking to other guys. He says I’m the only guy he’s talking to as well. But again, we haven’t had that conversation about us being in a relationship. Which I’m find with. But, what do you think I should do? BTW, I’m a fan of the site.
Thanks in advance for the advice,