Dating

Reclaiming from Him Your Most Valuable Possession

The most valuable thing you own has nothing to do with Gucci, Tesla, or Coldwell Banker. It’s not something you can necessarily buy, and it certainly can’t be shipped to you via Amazon Prime. Despite what ads may tell you, the most valuable thing a person can ever own is time.

And if you can agree that time is the most valuable thing you have, then take a moment and think about how you use it and protect it. Are you taking moments of the day to pursue your heart’s passions or dreams? Are you spending time with the loved ones that feed your soul? In terms of protection, are you allowing someone to steal the most valuable thing you possess?

Dating

He Told Me He Loves Me But I Wasn’t Ready to Say it Back

T,

My best friend told me about your blog, and I love it. That post about relationships vs companionship was good. I’m thinking you may be able to help me.  I’ve been seeing  this guy for about a month.  We never had the relationship talk, and we both have been rocking with each other hard.  However,  I know I still flirt and talk with other guys.  I thought he was doing the same, until he told me two nights ago that he loves me. I was blown, because I didn’t think we had gotten there yet.   I didn’t want him to feel bad so I told him verbatim “awe, love ya.”  But I don’t think I love him.  I mean I could love him eventually, but I’m not there yet. I feel things between has gotten a lot more serious than I wanted it to right now. What do I do here to slow things down with this man without pissing him off and making him want to stop talking to me?

-I’m Not Ready for Love

Dating

I Found Out He Dated My Aunt

T,

I could use some of your help when you got a minute.  I like dating older men.  When I say older, I mean like dudes 15 or 20 years older than me in their 40s usually.  Something about that salt and pepper in the beard, maturity, and dad muscles really just do it for me. So I’ve been dating this one man for about three weeks now. He’s mad cool, and I could actually see this going somewhere.  Then I find out that he actually dated my one aunt back when they were in high school.  Like they legit went out together.  I may be bugging, but once I found that out I put him on pause. I haven’t answered his calls or messages.  I just can’t date someone that’s gone out with a relative. Especially my aunt.  I love that lady like a second mother.  But I really did like they guy. What would you do if you were me?

-Mr. Unwanted Triangle

Dating

Should I Be Buying Him a Christmas Gift?

Dear T,

I don’t have a major problem to ask you about, but more like a minor situation.  I’ve been dating this guy about a month, and Christmas is approaching.  I’m not sure if I should be trying to buy him a gift or not. While we aren’t official yet, we’ve been on several dates, and I haven’t been talking to other guys.   He says I’m the only guy he’s talking to as well.  But again, we haven’t had that conversation about us being in a relationship.  Which I’m find with.  But, what do you think I should do?   BTW, I’m a fan of the site.

Thanks in advance for the advice,

Charlie S.