Dating

If People Can Change, Why Can’t I Try to Change My Man?

T,

Was at brunch with the crew about a week ago, and we had an interesting convo.  Now I don’t know if it was interesting because the mimosas were flowing or what, but it’s a question I present to you.  If we as humans believe that people can change, then why is it so far stretched for me to date a good looking guy with bad habits and expect to be able to change him into my dream man?  I mean my friends said there is nothing wrong with being with a seven because he will probably treat you right.  But I want a ten, and to be able to mold him into a ten on the inside to match.  You know what I’m trying to say?  Looking forward to reading what you have to say.

-I Want Tens

Dating

Who’s in… Light Skin or Dark Skin?

Hi T,

I saw the post you had about thick men, and was quite impressed.  That was some good reading.  Having read that, I want to know your thoughts about dark skin men.  It seems like light skin guys have been in season for what seems like forever.  When are the chocolate brothers such as myself coming back in style?  And on that note, why does everyone just seek out tall light skin men?  To be clear, I’m not jealous of anyone or hating.  I’m only a man that is tired of the sexiness of chocolate brothers being downplayed. That’s all.  Can’t wait to read what you have to say.

Darker the Berry

Dating

Is He too Old for Me to Date?

Hey T,

I love what you have here.  I stop by and read the occasional post.  Anyway, I have a question for you.  I’ve been single for a minute, and recently my friend tried to convince me to date outside of my comfort zone.  He said I have nothing to lose, and I agree. So I told him I would finally say yes to this associate of a friend I know, that has been trying to meet up with me for weeks now.  This guy and I were introduced at a house party.  The thing is, I’ve only recently found out that homeboy is 17 years older than me.  I’ve never dated anyone that much older before, and I’m kind of nervous about that.  I keep thinking that’s too old.  T, what do you think? Is 17 years too old?

Still a Youngin

relationships

I’m Thicker and Hate it!

Dear T,

I’m just going to put it on the table.  I’m extremely uncomfortable being naked around my partner.  We’ve been together for about 8 months, and I’ve put on about 18 pounds.  Yes 18.  Heck, the number of pants I can fit these days are few.  While on one hand I’m kind of happy about the butt I never had starting to grow, I can’t deal with the extra stomach.  The love handles aren’t sexy to me.  Now my boyfriend says I’m still sexy to him, and even sexier now that there is a little more cushion for the pushin.  Ironically, I don’t feel confident like I use to during sex. I wear a shirt and the lights stay off.  I know I should go on an Herbal Life slim down or something, but what do I do in the meantime.  It took 8 months to put on the weight, so I know it will take some time to lose it.  Appreciate the help.

Gettin Thick

Dating

Is It OK to Message My MCM?

Hey T,

Quick and simple question.  Do you think it’s a bad idea to inbox your MCM?  My friends think if I were to do it, that I’m being super thirsty.  But I don’t seem the harm.  Not like I’m sending nudes or anything.  Thoughts?

-One Life to Live

Pop Culture

Firing Off Friday: Drake

Hello good people,

And happy Friday to ya!  I’ve decided to start something new called Fire Off Friday.  On the occasional Friday, I will use my platform here to get something that’s been bothering me off my chest, or to share some revelation I’ve come to.  Essentially, I will be “firing off” my opinion.  And with that said, let’s jump right into this.