Dating

I Really Like Him, But He Won’t Meet Me in Person

T,

I have a problem I don’t think you’ve written about but hoping you can help me with. I’ve been talking to this guy who I really like for about six weeks or so on IG. Not only does he have body and a great smile, but he also is sexy to me because he is smart. The conversations we have always leave me feeling a type of way if you know what I mean. As great as this guy seems though, we haven’t met in person. Every time I suggest it, he says cool, kind of flakes last minute.

Now usually, I’d tell a guy about himself and just block him. But every time I go to do that, I go through our messages and look at pics of him, and get a little hot to be honest. It doesn’t help that we’ve phone boned a couple of times, and it was sexy. And he’s seen private photos of mine and I’ve seen his, so I feel invested for some reason. My friends think I’m being dumb and being played, but part of me just feel like me and this guy could work, so I don’t want to cut him off completely. Besides, I still talk to other dudes. Could use your input.

-Shamefully Sprung

Dating

I Was in His City, but He Didn’t Make Time to Meet Me

Tavion,

I’ve peeped a few of your posts and I love your advice. Your words really do be hitting. Hopefully, your words will hit on something today. I find myself stuck in this situation with this guy who I met through IG six weeks ago. So initially, I came across his profile through another IG friend who liked his post. After I went to the guy’s page, I thought he was fine AF, and we seemed to have things in common. Naturally, I started to follow him, and then he followed me. He even did the thing where he went through my profile and liked a bunch of my posts. I took that as a sign to shoot my shot, and did. We started flirting back and forth through DMs, then moved our convos to phone.

Once we exchanged numbers, we would text throughout the day and even talk on the phone at night every now and then. I forgot to mention, he lives in Houston and I live in Atlanta. That’s important, because last weekend I was in Houston to meet up with friends and didn’t even see him. We had planned to meet up and he knew I was coming, but as soon as I got to Houston all of a sudden he was too busy to see me. He claimed he was swamped with a project at work. I think that is bs because I feel he could at least met up with me for an hour.

Long story short, since I’ve been back in ATL we don’t really communicate like we were. He tried to text me this week to apologize, but honestly I was still in my feelings and didn’t want to hear it so I’ve been distant. I’m frustrated because I still like the guy but don’t like feeling I’ve been played. What do you suggest here?

From,

Confused Dater 92

The Lifestyle

My Boyfriend Wants To Take A Break… What Am I to Do?

Hey T,

I was wondering if you could give me some advice.  So me and my boyfriend have been together since June of this year and last night he told me that he wants a break and that it is not me and that he knows I want to talk but he’s not ready to right now.  I’m completely devastated and heartbroken I don’t even know what to do.  I AM IN LOVE WITH HIM.  A part of me wants revenge, a part of me wants to disappear forever I’m so hurt I don’t know what to do.  If there is anything you can suggest I’m all ears?

-Rashaud

Dating

Lust or Love in the Workplace?

T,

Here’s a situation for you.   There’s this new guy that started working in my office and I think I want him to be mine.  Scratch that, I know for certain I want him to be mine.  When I tell you he is almost too perfect, I mean it.  He has a great smile, amazing body (I mean him in dress pants and a button up shirt is too sexy), and his voice almost makes me want to get undressed every time I hear him speak.  I’ve been trying to figure out whether he’s gay or not so I can make my move, and that’s where you come in.  I don’t want to just put myself out there in case he’s not gay, and make things awkward at work.  And I tried looking at his social media to get a clue, but I can’t find him anywhere.  So what do you think I should do here? Thanks in advance for the help.

From,

Want Him Bad

Pop Culture

Loving Yourself on Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day folks.  Whether you’re in a relationship, situationship, dating, or happily single, I hope today you celebrate love.  Not necessarily love in the romantic sense either.  Look, I’m a big supporter of people using this day to celebrate not only the love they have for their beaus, but also the love they have for friends, family, and others near and dear.  I also believe that people should use today to reflect on the love and admiration they have for themselves.  Self-love is so important; and yet, many people have the hardest time with the concept.

relationships

After this Breakup, Will I Find Love Again?

Hello T,

Thanks for the advice in the last article. Unfortunately, my guy wants to explore this “spark” with his “friend” more than he wants to be with me. It HURTS! I feel that he’s my soul mate and I’ve never said that about anyone before. Plus, this guy is in a relationship himself. Will the pain of losing your soul mate ever go away? Do you get more than one soul mate? Will God show him the truth?

Lost and Confused

Dating

Where Are the Quality Men?

Dear T,

I’m not sure if I have a question, or more of something I want to rant about.  Lately, it seems like every person that hits me up on these dating apps are just blah.  They always come at me sideways with ratchet comments, and like 8 out of 10 of them are a little less than unattractive.  Like where are all the good guys?  The attractive ones.  The non-corny ones. The ones that don’t make my skin crawl.  Again, not much of a question but more of a vent.   Love the site btw.

From,

Searching But No Luck

relationships

Am I Wrong for Wanting a Prenup?

Dear T,

So after 2 years with my baby, I’m finally ready to pop the question.  I want to go before the justice of the peace, exchange rings, and say I do.  The only thing is, having talked about the idea of marriage with my boyfriend, we don’t agree on the idea of a prenup.  If we were to get married, I would have to have a prenup.  God forbid we get married then divorce, I just want us to walk away from the marriage with what we had before going into it.  No alimony and no mess.  He on the other hand thinks that a prenup is like some curse on a marriage.  He thinks signing one means the marriage is doomed to fail.  Since we are both pretty grounded in our perspectives, how do you think we should proceed going forward in our relationship?

Thanks in advance,

Wanna Keep My Coin

Dating

Is He too Old for Me to Date?

Hey T,

I love what you have here.  I stop by and read the occasional post.  Anyway, I have a question for you.  I’ve been single for a minute, and recently my friend tried to convince me to date outside of my comfort zone.  He said I have nothing to lose, and I agree. So I told him I would finally say yes to this associate of a friend I know, that has been trying to meet up with me for weeks now.  This guy and I were introduced at a house party.  The thing is, I’ve only recently found out that homeboy is 17 years older than me.  I’ve never dated anyone that much older before, and I’m kind of nervous about that.  I keep thinking that’s too old.  T, what do you think? Is 17 years too old?

Still a Youngin

relationships

I’m In a Relationship, So Where’s the Sex?

T,

I am coming up on my 4th year in a relationship with a partner I love. Six months into the relationship our sex life dwindled down to almost nothing. We have had multiple conversations about our sexless relationship. We’ve considered health concerns and even emotional possibilities. I don’t feel like there is cheating occurring. I don’t think anyone is getting any. My greatest concern is that there doesn’t seem to be the same urgency to correct this situation as it is for me.  Cuddling is great, kissing is good, but as I was told as a child kissing leads to things… just not for me! I don’t know what to do next. Can you offer any assistance?

-Where’s the Sex