friendship

Should I Tell Him He Stinks?

T,

Would you tell a friend that he has bad body odor?  I met a friend in grad school this semester, and he’s real cool.  On occasion we go out happy hour and chill.  Well last Friday was the first time we went clubbing together, and let’s just say it was a foul experience.  About an hour after we got to the club, I kept smelling something.  At first, I thought it was one of the many other people at the place.  However, my nose led me to him.  It was so bad.  Not only was the smell nauseating, but I was embarrassed to be there with him. Heck, when we left the club to go home, I rode home with my windows down.  It may be spring time, but it was nobody’s warm.  I’m not sure how I proceed with him.  Do I tell my friend he has an odor problem, or do I just never go to the club with him ever again?

Thanks in Advance,

Clean Air Only

Dating

Is It OK to Message My MCM?

Hey T,

Quick and simple question.  Do you think it’s a bad idea to inbox your MCM?  My friends think if I were to do it, that I’m being super thirsty.  But I don’t seem the harm.  Not like I’m sending nudes or anything.  Thoughts?

-One Life to Live

relationships

You, Me, and IG Makes Three!

Dear T,

I’ve peeped out your advice a few times now, and like what you’ve had to say. So I decided to hit you up and ask you a question. Lately I’ve been noticing my boyfriend post a lot of pics on Instagram I think are disrespectful to our relationship. He’s posted pics of him flexing shirtless, pics of him from the bathroom after a shower, and even posted one of those eggplant Friday things. Other guys know he’s in a relationship with me (we post ourselves together all the time), but still leave suggestive comments under his photos. And he never checks these guys. He also likes a lot of photos of men he has only met through Instagram. I honestly want to check his DM inbox to see if anything is going on. This all makes me so uncomfortable. How can I stop him from committing all these Instagram fouls?

Signed,

Gonna Choke A Bytch Very Soon

friendship, The Lifestyle

No Homo

Dear T,

I’m having a slight issue with my straight group of friends. I know it’s 2015, but they still say things like “no homo” or “pause” when they make a comment that sounds gay to them. They know I’m gay, and accept me as such, but they still use these terms. Although I wasn’t bothered by this initially, I’m starting to get a little offended now. Do you think I should address my issue with my friends? Or should I just swallow my feelings, and be grateful I have straight friends that accept me for me? Thanks for the help.

From,

Cavs Fan85