Dating, relationships

My Boyfriend Has a Sex Tape Online…What to Do?

Dear T,

I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month now, and everything was going great.  But a few days ago he told me something that has got me really questioning a future with him.   He told me that a year ago he and his boyfriend of the time made a sex video, and that the video is somewhere on the tube.  I tried to play it cool when he told me, but I’m kind of freaking out.  I don’t know if I can make someone bae, when bae has spread his cheeks for the world to see.  I tried looking for the video but can’t find it, and he didn’t tell me the title of it.  I didn’t really ask either I guess.  So what advice do you have for me T?  Could use some.

-Surprised Dater

Pop Culture, relationships

Adele Has Me in My Feelings

Hi T,

Believe it or not, that new Adele song has had me thinking lately about my ex-boyfriend.  Despite the fact that we broke up 4 months ago, and we both have started dating other people, the song made me realize I still love him and didn’t get closure after the breakup.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to get back together with him or anything.  But I’m just saying.  Actually, I guess I don’t know what I’m saying.  Guess I’m asking you to help me make sense of my emotions.


Hello 88

Dating, friendship, relationships

Found Out I’m Guilty of “Crew Love”

Dear T,

I started seeing this guy about a month ago, and things have been going great.  That is, until we recently added each other on Instagram.  Going through his pictures, I noticed that there is this one man that is in quite a few of them.  I naturally asked the guy I’m dating who the man is, and he tells me it’s his God brother.  He said they’ve known each other since they were kids.   So the issue here is, I actually slept with the God brother about two years ago.  It was an after club hookup.  Anyways, I don’t know if I should tell the guy I’m dating or not.  And if I do tell him, when that should be.  I like this guy and want to see where this goes.  Help would be appreciated.


Jacob Doe


While He’s Flirting, I’m Jealous

 Dear T,

My damn boyfriend is driving me crazy.  As much as I love him, lately I’ve been wanting to kick his ass.  When I tell you he is biggest flirt, I mean it.  He’ll flirt with members at the gym, employees at the grocery store, waiters at any restaurant, and men on IG.  When I mention the problem I have with his flirting, he always respond the same way.  “Babe you know I’m not cheating, I love you.”  And then my personal favorite, “You know I’m just a natural flirt, it means nothing.  Don’t you trust me?”  I mean I do trust him, but man.  What do you think I should do here?


Angry Bey