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My Son May Be Gay, What Should I Do?

 Hello T,

I need some help here for my son.  If he is gay that is fine and if not that is fine too. He started hanging with a friend he met and they get along great, which is cool. The thing is my son says he is confused because he likes to hang with his friend because he likes his values and the way he thinks but he does not like penis and his new friend is 100% gay. So what advice can I help give to him. I told him it seems like a companionship more than a relationship but they are pretty close in comparison and hard to help him understand what it is he has.  I just love my son no matter what, and I just feel you can give some really good advice.

Thank you so very much,

J.

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Kim’s Ordeal is NO Laughing Matter!

Today I’ve decided to delay my original post for today to talk about no other than Kim Kardashian-West.  As you guys know, I don’t talk about a ton of pop culture on here, and I’ve never talked about Kim.  However, I felt compelled to say something in light of the unfortunate circumstances she has recently faced, and those that feel her misfortunes are somehow a laughing matter.

As I’m sure you all have heard by now, the reality star was robbed at gunpoint while in a “secluded” apartment building in Paris.  According to her details of the incident, she was bound and manhandled, while in fear that she would be raped or even murdered.  Before the robbers had the opportunity to gag her to prevent her from talking, she allegedly begged for her life offering the robbers anything they wanted.   She begged for life for the sake of her children.  Not for her, but for her two kids.  In that moment, she was reduced from a high profile celebrity, to a wife and mother of two.  It’s this part that get’s to me the most.

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Giving Unsolicited Advice to a Mother

Dear T,

I’m going to try and keep this brief.  I’ve been friends with this girl for a little over a year.  Recently, I have been going over to her house to hang out from time to time, and noticed how she treats her children.  She has two boys and treats them both completely different. The youngest, she babies a lot and caters to his needs.  With her young teenage son, she is a bit harder on him.  I’m all for tough love, but she treats him like some neighbor’s son instead of her own.   Better yet, it’s like the teenager is Cinderella, and the youngest is one of the sisters. Except in this situation, the youngest is not mean at all, and the oldest is biologically my friend’s child. He rarely cracks a smile when I’m over there.  When I tried talking to him one on one, he was reluctant to share his feelings with me.  Everything in me is telling me to mind my business, and let my friend parent how she wants to parent.  However, she recently shared with me that the youngest boy asked her why the oldest boy hates him.  It seemed to break her heart, and I want to tell her that it’s her fault.  What should I do here?  Sorry if it’s not that brief.

-Cautiously concerned.

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Letter to an Absentee Father from an Abandoned Son

Dear Dad,

I want to first off state how weird it is for me to write you this letter.  As a man in his late 20s, I didn’t think I would still have to be dealing with “daddy issues.”  But unfortunately, here I am.  I figured if I wrote you this letter to get it all out, it would somehow be therapeutic for me.  That I would get all my feelings out, and tell you all the things I’ve wanted to say, but never had the courage to say it.   Oh and look, I don’t even expect a response from you.  So no need for you to bother. Welp, here goes nothing.

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I’m Gay and Mom Can’t Deal

Dear T,

It’s been a few months since I’ve come out to my mom, and things between us are still awkward.  Before I told her I like men, she and I used to be best friends.  We talked about almost any and everything (with the exception of my sexuality of course).  But now, it’s a miracle if we can hold a meaningful conversation without arguing about me being gay.  She thinks I’m in some faze, and is determined to see me out of it.  I keep telling her I am who I am and that’s not changing, but she doesn’t seem to get it.  I know my friends said I should just give her some time to adjust, but how long do I have to wait before I get my friend back?  And do you have any tips on how to get my mom to be okay with all of this?

Thanks,

Mama’s Boy 92