friendship

I Just Don’t Feel Like Clubbing Anymore

Dear T,

Noticed you give advice on friendship stuff, and was hoping you could drop some nuggets of wisdom my way. Over the past few months I guess, I’ve really not been wanting to hang out in clubs and stuff.   So when my friends ask, I’m always finding an excuse as to why I can’t go.  Well a couple days back, one of my friends called me out on it.  He said I never go out anymore and wondering why I’ve changed up.  He kind of made me feel bad.  Am I supposed to go clubbing just to please my friends?  I mean what would you do?  This is not a big deal right now, but just don’t want it to become one.  Appreciate the help.

From,

Getting Too Old

Dating

Is He too Old for Me to Date?

Hey T,

I love what you have here.  I stop by and read the occasional post.  Anyway, I have a question for you.  I’ve been single for a minute, and recently my friend tried to convince me to date outside of my comfort zone.  He said I have nothing to lose, and I agree. So I told him I would finally say yes to this associate of a friend I know, that has been trying to meet up with me for weeks now.  This guy and I were introduced at a house party.  The thing is, I’ve only recently found out that homeboy is 17 years older than me.  I’ve never dated anyone that much older before, and I’m kind of nervous about that.  I keep thinking that’s too old.  T, what do you think? Is 17 years too old?

Still a Youngin