Dating, relationships

We Had Sex on the First Date, But Now He’s Claiming “Celibacy”?

T,

First off, Happy New Year to you. Man I hope it’s a good one. The question I have for you is about this guy I’ve been talking to that I met on Twitter. About two days before Christmas we finally went on our first date. The date was great and ended us having great sex, or at least I thought. We went out again recently, and he tells me that he doesn’t want to have sex anymore until we get to know each other better. I was thrown so when I asked him if there was a problem, he said he just didn’t want us to start something that was just about sex. I get that, but we’ve already had sex. I don’t see the problem. It’s not like I don’t want to build something with him too. I just feel some type of way I guess. It’s not like I’m going to beg him for sex, but I do want to have it and have no idea when he’ll be ready again. I’ve never had complaints about my performance, EVER, but now I’m thinking he didn’t like it or something. Feel a little paranoid about that. What are your thoughts?

-RJ094

relationships

My Boyfriend and I Aren’t Having Sex Like We Used To

Tavion,

What are you supposed to do when you’re boyfriend stops touching you like he used to? My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and a half now, and for the past couple of months we haven’t been having sex as regularly as we used to. We don’t live together, but we used to have sex about 4 if not more times a week. Now, we’re at like once a week. I get I may be a tad thicker, like 10 pounds heavier than I used to be when we met, and he’s been busier with his new job, but damn. I asked my best friend his thoughts on the situation, and he put out the idea that my boyfriend could be cheating. My friend is jaded so I’m trying not to take his words to heart. Besides, my boyfriend is a terrible liar so I would know. Interested in hearing your thoughts.

– Le Sigh

Dating

“Invented Sex”…How Do You Know if You’re Good in the Bedroom?

T,

When I was hanging with my friend and cousin, the topic of sex came up.  In our drunken convo, we were talking about how to know if you’re good in bed.  I mean my cousin was basically like you just know.  Either you got it or you don’t.  My friend on the other hand said you can tell if you’re good at sex, based on the reaction of your partners.  However, I raised point that people lie.  A guy may moan, and tell you that you are amazing in the moment, but he could be lying.  I’ve had bad sexual experiences with a guy or two, and acted like it was great, just so I didn’t hurt their feelings.  So again, how do you know if you’ve got that good, good?

-I Wanna Know

relationships

I’m In a Relationship, So Where’s the Sex?

T,

I am coming up on my 4th year in a relationship with a partner I love. Six months into the relationship our sex life dwindled down to almost nothing. We have had multiple conversations about our sexless relationship. We’ve considered health concerns and even emotional possibilities. I don’t feel like there is cheating occurring. I don’t think anyone is getting any. My greatest concern is that there doesn’t seem to be the same urgency to correct this situation as it is for me.  Cuddling is great, kissing is good, but as I was told as a child kissing leads to things… just not for me! I don’t know what to do next. Can you offer any assistance?

-Where’s the Sex