Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

I Don’t Want My Boyfriend Going to Pride Events

Dear T,

Please don’t think I’m insecure or anything, but I’m having an issue with my boyfriend. See he is going to Sizzle this weekend with his friends, and I hate it. I’m just not a fan of people in relationships going to these pride events. I remember when I used to go to them with my friends, and it was to have fun and do “grown up” things. And so I’m nervous he may go down there to do the same. I understand he made all his travel arrangements with his crew before we became an official couple, but I’m just uncomfortable. Do you think I can ask him not to go?


In Love but Nervous


Should I Meet Up with an Ex?

First time writing one of these letters so please bear with me.  About 8 months ago, my ex and I broke up after being together for nearly two years. Caught him in a lie which led me to find out that he cheated. Well after not having spoken to him since I ended things, a few days ago he hits me up out of the blue telling me he wants to me up and talk. I told my sister about him texting me, and she told me to ignore him because he prolly wants to get back together. She doesn’t want that to happen because she thinks he will hurt me again. Part of me gets where she is coming from. However, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t miss him and our relationship. I guess I’m asking if you think I should go or just pay him? Like I don’t owe him a meeting or anything, but kind of want to go.

On the Fence 91


Should Couples Really Be Trying to Make Lemonade?

For the past week or so, unless you’ve been on the moon, you’ve at least heard snippets of Queen Bey’s Lemonade.  Personally, having listen to the album in its entirety maybe about 700 times, I can’t help but think about the notion of cheating. I don’t mean trying to figure out if Jay Z actually messed around on Beyoncé, and with who. I mean I’ve been thinking about how a true love between two people can survive infidelity. And like many of you, I took the thoughts in my head and shared them with friends, in an effort to have a mini forum on cheating.  While I’m not going to share everything my friends and I discussed, I will summarize in a few points about what stood out to me.


I Can’t Quit My Ex

Dear T,

No matter how hard I try, I can’t shake my ex.  He and I have broken up four times, and each time we get back together.  This last time though, I swore I was not going to take him back.  I told him, and myself, I was tired of the petty arguments and sick of feeling like I can’t trust him.  The last time we broke up, it was because he cheated.  And I know all the reasons why I shouldn’t get back with him, but damn it I love him.  The good times between us are really good.  Great convo, great laughs, and great sex.  With him in my ear asking me for another chance, I’m tempted to take him back.  What do I do here?  I could really use some good advice.

-Hopelessly Stuck