Dating

We’re Only Dating, Do I Have to Invite Him to Thanksgiving Dinner?

Hey T,

I hope this letter gets to you quickly because I kind of need an answer ASAP. The thing is I’ve been dating this guy for a little over two months. Everything is cool between us, but I wouldn’t say we were in a relationship just yet. Not that I don’t want to be, we just haven’t had that talk yet. Okay so the point. He asked me what I was doing this Thanksgiving and I told him my family was coming to town for dinner. When I asked him about his plans, he said he didn’t really have any. His family is on the west coast, and the people he considers his friends are all going out of town. I feel bad for him because it basically sounds like he is going to be spending Thanksgiving alone.

Now he hasn’t outright asked to come to Thanksgiving with me and my family, but I feel like he has dropped a few hints like he wants me to ask. The problem is, I’m not comfortable with inviting him. My family knows I’m gay, but have never met one of my boyfriend’s, or anyone I’ve dated, and I don’t want to start that tradition now. I’d rather wait until I’m with someone I know for sure is going to be the one. The question I have, is how do I not invite this guy to dinner without feeling like a jerk? Again, I like this guy and want to see where things between us go and don’t want to offend him.

Thank you,

Holiday Bluezzz

The Lifestyle

Another Moment with Euphonious K.Z.G.: Gratefulness Day 2017… What a day to remember!!

Blog #3 let’s goooooo! I really wanna talk about my actual gratefulness day with you all because it ended up being AMAZING!! So usually I’m a bit sad on holidays whether it’s from not having a companion to spend the time with cuddling and just loving each other or whether it’s the constant reminder of watching my family drift apart over the years (heartbreaking). This year I actually wasn’t down though. I was pretty content and ready to spend the day to myself, sleeping, video gaming, listening to music, and just being creative.

Pop Culture

T’s Top Ten Christmas Songs

Christmas is by far my favorite holiday.  I love everything about it.  First and foremost, I enjoy celebrating the true meaning of Christmas.  As Christian, you could say that I’m a super fan of celebrating Christ. But I also love going from store to store to buy gifts for loved ones.  I love putting up the tree and all the decorations.  I love the smell of my grandma’s stuffing and pies, my mom’s macaroni and cheese, my aunt’s cookies, and all the other food that will certainly have me working overtime in the gym.  And of course there is the music.

I absolutely love listening to Christmas music.  Each year shortly after Thanksgiving, my playlist changes to include some classic holiday hits from Stevie Wonder, the Temptations, and others.  There are certain songs and artists I have to hear during the weeks between that Thanksgiving Thursday and December 25th.  In fact, I have ten must-hear songs.  See if your fav made my cut. FYI, trying to make a top ten list was hard for me.  There are plenty of songs I love that didn’t make it on here.

relationships

My Weight, Our Problem

Dear T,

Should I expect my boyfriend to still want to be with me if I’ve gained weight since we first started dating?  I mean we still love each other, but I have put on about 30 pounds in the 1 ½ years we’ve been together.  And I’ve noticed we don’t have sex as often, but not sure if I should chalk that up to my weight or not.  Your advice would be appreciated.

From,

Lil Thicker

relationships

How Do Couples Spend the Holidays?

Hi T,

My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly two and a half  years, live together, and are planning to get married. However, this is the first winter where we need to decide how to split up the holidays and family time.  I suggested going to our separate homes for Thanksgiving and then splitting Christmas day between the two families; she suggested spending both holidays with our respective families. I know she doesn’t like my family (it took them a while to warm to the “their daughter is dating a girl” thing, but are very welcoming of her now), but I feel torn between spending the holidays with my family – and without her – or with her and not my family. What’s the etiquette here? We’re not married, but we’re close enough that it feels weird not spending holidays together. But whenever I broach the subject of splitting holidays between our families, she gets defensive or shuts down. I know she loves her family (I do too!) but I feel like mine isn’t being respected. How should I proceed?

 

Sincerely,

Confused for the Holidays