Dating

If People Can Change, Why Can’t I Try to Change My Man?

T,

Was at brunch with the crew about a week ago, and we had an interesting convo.  Now I don’t know if it was interesting because the mimosas were flowing or what, but it’s a question I present to you.  If we as humans believe that people can change, then why is it so far stretched for me to date a good looking guy with bad habits and expect to be able to change him into my dream man?  I mean my friends said there is nothing wrong with being with a seven because he will probably treat you right.  But I want a ten, and to be able to mold him into a ten on the inside to match.  You know what I’m trying to say?  Looking forward to reading what you have to say.

-I Want Tens

friendship, relationships

Can I Tell My Sister Her Boyfriend Is a Jerk?

Dear T,

Saw some advice you posted on Facebook, and thought it was pretty enlightening.  So I thought I’d write to you about a problem I’ve been having.  For the past few months, my sister has been dating this real jerk.  When she brings him around family events, he doesn’t speak to anyone.  When I’ve been out with him and her at a restaurant or bar, he drinks more than anyone and gets ratchet.  And I’m pretty sure he is cheating on my sister.  One of my friends said he saw the guy talking really close to some random girl about a week ago.  I’m not sure what to say to my sister.  In the past when me or my mom tried to tell my sister about her boyfriends, she never listened.  She always waited until the assholes broke her heart. Looking forward to your advice.

-Andy No Bravo

Dating

Is He too Old for Me to Date?

Hey T,

I love what you have here.  I stop by and read the occasional post.  Anyway, I have a question for you.  I’ve been single for a minute, and recently my friend tried to convince me to date outside of my comfort zone.  He said I have nothing to lose, and I agree. So I told him I would finally say yes to this associate of a friend I know, that has been trying to meet up with me for weeks now.  This guy and I were introduced at a house party.  The thing is, I’ve only recently found out that homeboy is 17 years older than me.  I’ve never dated anyone that much older before, and I’m kind of nervous about that.  I keep thinking that’s too old.  T, what do you think? Is 17 years too old?

Still a Youngin

The Lifestyle

Hiding in Plain Sight

Dear T,

I’ve been out of the closest so to speak for about 2 years now, but I still feel like I’m hiding the real me.  I mean people know I’m gay, but I feel like I have to pretend sometimes.  I like to listen to Nicki and Beyoncé, love to twerk, and Bravo is a mainstay on my television.  However, if I share that with people, especially in the gay community, people throw labels at me like feminine and bottom.  And the truth of the matter is, I consider myself masculine and am a strict top.  I guess what I’m asking here is how to deal with people misjudging me and making assumptions?

From,

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