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Your Dreams are Bigger than the Pettiness and Shade!

I putting out a challenge for personal elevation. Stop concerning yourself with every person that throws you shade. Let go of your pressing desire to return petty for petty.  And please do yourself a favor, and tap into your ability to turn the other cheek.  I’ve come to learn, that sometimes in your effort to seek revenge against someone you think that has wronged you, you are mostly likely accomplishing two things.  One, you’ll be wasting time.  The time you spend plotting and scheming on someone, is time you won’t ever get back.  It could be better spent on your dreams and hustles, but instead you will be giving it someone that won’t contribute to your bank account or happiness. Second, when you seek out revenge, you are allowing whoever wronged you to further consume your energy.  You give them expressed permission and consent to continue to antagonize you.  Not to mention, you prop them up to a position in your life they don’t need to have.

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Was Beyoncé’s “Sorry” Calling the Grammys Out for 2015 AOTY Snub?

As a loyal member of the Beyhive, I, like many, am still seething about the results from this year’s Grammy Award Ceremony. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge fan of the British songstress Adele.  I often find her lyrics to be emotionally impactful and her voice to be an amazing rarity in today’s music industry.  With that said, there is no way that 25 was better than the cultural phenomenon Lemonade. Heck, Adele herself even admitted that.

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Lemonade A Hit…May Be Beyoncé’s Best!

Hello good people,

As you can probably tell, I’m in a surprisingly fantastic mood as I write this.  I’m still breathing, it’s sunny outside, my book is nearing release (I’ll be talking about that more in detail soon), and Beyoncé has graciously dropped her highly anticipated 6th album.  Although I, like her millions of fans across the globe, knew she would be debuting the mysterious Lemonade on HBO, I was rocked by the tragic news of Prince’s passing.  I couldn’t, and still can’t, believe music lost such a heavy hitter.  I mean in all honesty, Prince had to be the most innovative and prolific musician the world has ever seen.  Since his death, I’ve been jamming to hits like “Diamonds and Purples”, “Musicology”, “Let’s Go Crazy”, “Adore”, and of course the classic “Purple Rain”.  So in a way, I’ve been mourning the death of a music titan.  While I knew a Beyoncé video project was premiering this past Saturday, I wasn’t expecting an album.   I kind of thought she would push back the release of an album, and it would be a Prince only weekend (minus the video premiere).  However, Bey graciously dropped what may wind up being my favorite album from the Queen ever.

Dating

Who’s in… Light Skin or Dark Skin?

Hi T,

I saw the post you had about thick men, and was quite impressed.  That was some good reading.  Having read that, I want to know your thoughts about dark skin men.  It seems like light skin guys have been in season for what seems like forever.  When are the chocolate brothers such as myself coming back in style?  And on that note, why does everyone just seek out tall light skin men?  To be clear, I’m not jealous of anyone or hating.  I’m only a man that is tired of the sexiness of chocolate brothers being downplayed. That’s all.  Can’t wait to read what you have to say.

Darker the Berry

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Why Pro-Black Movements Are NOT Anti-White

Look, I won’t attempt to beat what should be an obvious dead horse, but I will offer my two cents on the nonsense. While Beyoncé is not responsible for this debate, she has definitely brought about the resurgence of the conversation.  A conversation that still baffles me is even taking place.  It might be 2016, but some things apparently never get old.

Black Power, Black Lives matter, and similar pro-black sentiments, have never been created with an anti-white premise.  They were created as an expression for black men and women to embrace and rally behind in the face of injustice and inequity.  Injustice and inequity subtly, and sometimes overtly, perpetuated by the governing authorities of a given place and time in the U.S.  When black lives were trampled, overlooked, and lost, it was movements sparked by the chants of “Black Power,” that showed this country and the world, that people of color are united in our demand for something better.  That the unfortunate accepted norms, were no longer tolerable.  And that our voices will be heard and change must be imminent.