The Lifestyle

Dreams and Fulfillment: Putting Action Behind Your 2019 Resolutions

Making New Year’s Resolutions is nothing new. As a matter of fact, historians have said the Babylonians were the first to make New Year’s Resolutions roughly 4,000 years ago. Which means, for centuries upon centuries, people have used the top of the year to promise themselves better health, better wealth ,and a certain glow up they’ve yet to attain before. While I’m not sure what happened back in the days of the Babylonians, I know in this day and age, commitment to keeping resolutions has become somewhat of a running joke.

Think about it. How many people do you know that have been working on their “summer body” for about four summers? (No shade intended, because I too have been working on my summer body since 2016 myself LOL). And how many folks can you name right now that have been committed to leveling-up in their career yet have made no efforts to move out of their current job? I won’t even touch on the unfulfilled travel goals people make yet make no efforts to save money for said goals. (Again, no shade intended, but I too can relate.)


If We’re Not in a Relationship Yet, Should I Buy a Valentine’s Day Gift?


I have a question for you.  Should I be buying a Valentine’s Day gift for a guy I’ve only been dating for 3 weeks?  It’s weird because part of me thinks it’s kind of early for me to spend money on a gift for someone I’m not sure I’m going to be with a month for now. I mean the guy is cool, and we click, but our thing is still pretty early. Then there’s the whole thing that if I get him something, but he doesn’t get me anything, I may feel some type of way.  Although, I don’t want him to be pissed if he buys me something, but I decide not to get him anything.  Maybe I shouldn’t be this worried about it, but we are supposed to meet up Valentine’s Day and I’m running out of time to think on it. You’re help would be much appreciated.

-Black Cupid 93


Am I Wrong for Wanting a Prenup?

Dear T,

So after 2 years with my baby, I’m finally ready to pop the question.  I want to go before the justice of the peace, exchange rings, and say I do.  The only thing is, having talked about the idea of marriage with my boyfriend, we don’t agree on the idea of a prenup.  If we were to get married, I would have to have a prenup.  God forbid we get married then divorce, I just want us to walk away from the marriage with what we had before going into it.  No alimony and no mess.  He on the other hand thinks that a prenup is like some curse on a marriage.  He thinks signing one means the marriage is doomed to fail.  Since we are both pretty grounded in our perspectives, how do you think we should proceed going forward in our relationship?

Thanks in advance,

Wanna Keep My Coin


What’s Wrong With Being Kept?

Dear T,

What’s wrong with being kept?  So me and some of my friends were talking, and they tried to call me out for only dating a certain type of man.  I’ll be the first to admit that I like a guy with a certain level of coin, and who is not afraid to spend some of it on me.  My friends think this is gold digger behavior, but I call it finding a security.  I mean think about, many marriages and relationships don’t make it because of money issues.  So wouldn’t it make since to date folks who have money?  Just saying.  What are your thoughts?


Mr. Bank of America


I Want to Say I Do, But He Won’t Ask the Question


I’m at a cross roads in my life, and could use some help from you. I’m going on two years in my relationship with my boyfriend, and I’m in a headspace where I’m ready to take the next step.  I’m talking marriage.  The thing is, the two of us had a conversation about marriage, and he has no plan to get hitched anytime soon.  I guess I’m perplexed as to what to do. My one best friend thinks I should consider moving on if marriage is something I really want.  But how do I throw away two years?  I love this man and love the time we spend together.  Thoughts?

Best Regards,

Seeking Matrimony

Dating, relationships

What to Give My Boo for Christmas

Hey T,

Hopefully I have a simple question for you.  The holidays are coming up, and I’m at a lost as to what to get for my girlfriend.  We’ve only been dating for about 4 months, so I’m not sure if I should get her like a Coach purse or Michael Kors watch or something.  I don’t want to buy anything too over the top, but I don’t want to fall flat on my face either.  Suggestions would be appreciated.


Lady Marmalade