friendship

It’s Only Been 7 Months, Should I Stop My Friend from Getting Married?

Dear T,

Let me start by saying how much I love your site. A cousin recommended I check it out about a week ago, and I’m hooked. You have some pretty good advice and some of the questions hit real close to home. So the reason I’m writing is because I have a question.

Okay, so about 3 weeks ago my best friend got engaged to a guy he’s only been with about 7 months. I think that’s hella of fast, but my best friend says he loves him and knows this is his husband. As much as I want to support him in his rushed relationship, yes that’s shade, I just can’t bring myself to be that happy for him. I honestly don’t like his fiancé.

His fiancé is a little shady in my opinion. The dude cheated on him like a 2 month ago with some random from the club. I thought that my friend would end things for good, but he only broke up with the guy for like a week then took him back. I rolled my eyes super hard on that one. Oh and did I mention that the fiancé is apparently not in contact with any of his family members. That is super suspicious to me.

Sorry, my question is this. Do I try and convince my friend not to get married? I don’t want him to hate me or take away my title as best man. On the other hand, I don’t want him to make such a huge mistake. He’s thinking of not signing a prenup with this fool, and my friend has a lot of coin.

Thanks,

Unsupportive But Supportive Bestie

relationships

I Want to Say I Do, But He Won’t Ask the Question

T,

I’m at a cross roads in my life, and could use some help from you. I’m going on two years in my relationship with my boyfriend, and I’m in a headspace where I’m ready to take the next step.  I’m talking marriage.  The thing is, the two of us had a conversation about marriage, and he has no plan to get hitched anytime soon.  I guess I’m perplexed as to what to do. My one best friend thinks I should consider moving on if marriage is something I really want.  But how do I throw away two years?  I love this man and love the time we spend together.  Thoughts?

Best Regards,

Seeking Matrimony