relationships

Orlando Has My Boyfriend Scared to Go Out

Dear T,

The whole Orlando incident has been weighing heavy on me and my relationship.  While we both thankfully didn’t lose someone close to us, we can’t help but to think that could have been us.  I mean we don’t live in the gay club, but we go on occasion.  As a matter of fact, we were in a club around the same time all of this was going on.  Knowing we could have very well been the ones shot at, has got my boyfriend spooked.  Badly.  We’re supposed to go out to a mutual friend’s birthday party in two weeks, and he refuses to go.  He doesn’t want to take the “risk.”  I told him we can’t live like hermit crabs because of this, but he won’t listen.  What are your thoughts?

Thanks,

Won’t Live in Fear

Dating

Gay Dating While Christian

I hope you are doing great. I am writing because it seems like I am at a dead end and I am hoping your words might help me out.

Even though I have been in relationships with some amazing men and have been extremely happy, I never felt fulfilled. You see, I am a gay Christian. With that said, whenever I tell other gay men that I am a Christian it seems like they get scared and run off. At 27 years old and been in the dating pool, I now know what I want out of a partner but more than anything… I know what I need.  I would like someone that is also Christian, someone which will walk this road of faith with, someone that I can lean on for prayer and vice versa, but where else do I find such man? It’s not as if Christian Mingle has a section for us. I know yourself has a Christian faith, any words of advice.

Your fellow brother,

Let There Be Light.