friendship, The Lifestyle

Ugh…I’m So Embarrassed!

Dear T,

I love my friend but he acts too gay sometimes.  When we go out in public there are instances when I feel slightly embarrassed by his behavior.  Especially, when we are around my family who are still warming up to the fact I’m gay.  I don’t know if I should say something to him or just bite my tongue.  I know saying something may hurt his feelings, and I don’t want to do that.  However, I wish he would tone it down a bit.  I look forward to hearing what you think I should do.

Sincerely,

Lucky Lyon

Dating

Dating Outside of Your Race is OK People!!!!!

Dear T,

I’m on the fence about dating this guy I met, and I’m hoping you can help me out a bit.  He seems like a good guy. He has a great job, is very funny, his smile is sexy, and surprisingly he has an amazing ass. However, he’s white and I’m black. And please don’t think I’m a racist or something. It’s just that when I envisioned my boo, it was a man of color. I can’t imagine bringing a white man around my friends, or taking one home to meet my mom. Plus, we come from different cultures. I’m not sure if I’m talking myself out of something that I don’t need to or what. That’s where your advice comes in. Thanks in advance for help.

Sincerely,

GuessWho

Dating

“Age Ain’t Nothing but a Number” Or is it?

Dear T,

How old is too old for me to be dating?  I’m 23, and I started dating this man I met at a bar who is 44.  My older sister told me I have no business seeing him because he’s too old, but I like him.  He’s well groomed, has a good job, and makes me laugh.  And he’s so much more mature then the guys my age.  What do you think?

From,

Young But Ready

The Lifestyle

I Say, Come On Out that Closet!

Dear T,

I’ll just get right to the point.  I’m 25 years old, a black man, and gay.  The problem is, I haven’t “come out” to my family yet.  My mom and dad are very old school Christian, and my two older brothers are kind of homophobic.  I’m afraid that if I tell them I’m gay, they won’t talk to me anymore.  On the other hand, I’m tired of living this secret double life.  I know people say I have to live my truth, but I don’t want to lose my family while doing it.  They mean everything to me.  What do you think I should do?

Thanks in advance,

Still in the Closet