friendship

I Just Don’t Feel Like Clubbing Anymore

Dear T,

Noticed you give advice on friendship stuff, and was hoping you could drop some nuggets of wisdom my way. Over the past few months I guess, I’ve really not been wanting to hang out in clubs and stuff.   So when my friends ask, I’m always finding an excuse as to why I can’t go.  Well a couple days back, one of my friends called me out on it.  He said I never go out anymore and wondering why I’ve changed up.  He kind of made me feel bad.  Am I supposed to go clubbing just to please my friends?  I mean what would you do?  This is not a big deal right now, but just don’t want it to become one.  Appreciate the help.

From,

Getting Too Old

Dating

“Invented Sex”…How Do You Know if You’re Good in the Bedroom?

T,

When I was hanging with my friend and cousin, the topic of sex came up.  In our drunken convo, we were talking about how to know if you’re good in bed.  I mean my cousin was basically like you just know.  Either you got it or you don’t.  My friend on the other hand said you can tell if you’re good at sex, based on the reaction of your partners.  However, I raised point that people lie.  A guy may moan, and tell you that you are amazing in the moment, but he could be lying.  I’ve had bad sexual experiences with a guy or two, and acted like it was great, just so I didn’t hurt their feelings.  So again, how do you know if you’ve got that good, good?

-I Wanna Know