relationships

I Don’t Know If I Can Handle My Boyfriend’s Drinking Problem

Dear T,

Point blank, what would you do if you think your boyfriend had an alcohol problem? My boyfriend and I been together for about 5 months, and over the past 2 months I realized I’m not a big fan of him drunk. I mean he’s always liked drinking the occasional drink. Hell, we met at a club. I used to think his drunken antics were a little cute. He would get very talkative, and his sex game improved ironically. Lately though, when he drinks he gets a little belligerent, and he’s drinking more frequently. In fact, we now usually get into our biggest arguments after he’s been drinking, and since he’s been doing more of that, we argue often.

I’ve asked him if he thought maybe he had a problem, but he says he doesn’t and I’m just hyping up the situation. I love my boyfriend and I want us to work out, but I don’t know if I want to deal with him and the drinking like that, and he doesn’t acknowledge a problem. So what would you do? What should I do?

-Want Him to Stop

friendship

I Just Don’t Feel Like Clubbing Anymore

Dear T,

Noticed you give advice on friendship stuff, and was hoping you could drop some nuggets of wisdom my way. Over the past few months I guess, I’ve really not been wanting to hang out in clubs and stuff.   So when my friends ask, I’m always finding an excuse as to why I can’t go.  Well a couple days back, one of my friends called me out on it.  He said I never go out anymore and wondering why I’ve changed up.  He kind of made me feel bad.  Am I supposed to go clubbing just to please my friends?  I mean what would you do?  This is not a big deal right now, but just don’t want it to become one.  Appreciate the help.

From,

Getting Too Old

friendship

Rethinking a Friendship

Dear T,

I have this colleague that I’ve worked with for about a year now.  Well for the past 8 months or so, we’ve started hanging out outside of work as friends.  It was cool hanging out with her at first, but now I’m starting to notice some things I don’t really like.  For example, when she drinks too much she has a bad habit of removing the filter from her mouth.  No lie, at a club one time she told this fine man “I bet you have really good meat, and I’m a little hungry.”  What made the line worse, is that the guy’s girlfriend was standing right next to him.  Coworker almost got me involved in a club fight.  And this is just one incident.  This girl also says things to my real friends sometimes that have them looking at her crazy, and me crazy for bringing her around.  I think I should pull back on my friendship with her, but not sure how to go about it. That’s where you come in.  Please help.

Thanks,

The Real Olivia Pope

friendship

Drunken Nights

Dear T,

I don’t really have a question about dating or relationships, but I have a question nonetheless.  When me and my group of friends go out, one of them, who I’ll refer to as X, always gets to drunk.  I mean we could all be drinking, but usually without fail X will go too far.  When he gets drunk he starts talking very loudly and aggressively with us and strangers.  Plus, X gets super flirtatious.  Many times he has grabbed some guy’s a$$ or crotch. And often the grabbing is not wanted.  Needless to say, his behavior has caused my friends and me to be embarrassed and involved in several altercations.  We tried talking to X about his behavior, and he either doesn’t get that he is reckless drunk, or he doesn’t care.  What would you do in this situation?

From,

Ricky Minaj