relationships

How Do Couples Spend the Holidays?

Hi T,

My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly two and a half  years, live together, and are planning to get married. However, this is the first winter where we need to decide how to split up the holidays and family time.  I suggested going to our separate homes for Thanksgiving and then splitting Christmas day between the two families; she suggested spending both holidays with our respective families. I know she doesn’t like my family (it took them a while to warm to the “their daughter is dating a girl” thing, but are very welcoming of her now), but I feel torn between spending the holidays with my family – and without her – or with her and not my family. What’s the etiquette here? We’re not married, but we’re close enough that it feels weird not spending holidays together. But whenever I broach the subject of splitting holidays between our families, she gets defensive or shuts down. I know she loves her family (I do too!) but I feel like mine isn’t being respected. How should I proceed?

 

Sincerely,

Confused for the Holidays

Dating, relationships

Breakup Protocol 101

Dear T,

If you have been dating a guy for only 6 weeks, but you realize you two aren’t going to work, what’s break up protocol?  Am I required to go meet with him face to face?  Or can I simply send him a text or email?  Or am I required to do anything other than stop communicating with him?  Advice is appreciated?

Thanks in advance,

Grown 89

relationships

I Want that Old Thing Back

Dear T,

This past weekend while at a friend of a friend’s house party, I ran into an ex-boyfriend.  I hadn’t seen or heard from him since we broke up about a year and a half ago.  When we saw each other, something just clicked.  We talked the entire time I was there.  Being with him in that moment felt right.  Plus, he still looks good, and even put on a few layers of muscle since we broke up.  Before I left the party, we made plans to go on a date and catch up.  My friend told me not to do it, because we broke up for a reason.  But I honestly kind of miss my ex and want to see him again.  I have a few days before our date, and wanted to know if you think I should cancel it because my friend is right?  Or should I follow my instinct?

Appreciate the advice,

Want that Old Thing Back

Dating, relationships

Are We Together or What?

 Dear T,

I’ve been dating this man for about 2 months now.  We have great times and really click.  I haven’t clicked with someone like this in a long time. Well anyways, how do I know if we are still just dating or are in a relationship at this point?

Thanks,
Kenan No Kel

Dating

Great Guy but Can’t Kiss….What to Do?

Dear T,

What do you do when you like a guy, but he is a terrible kisser?  I’ve been on a few dates with this man, and we have great conversation and he is physically attractive, but the kissing sucks.  In the worst way.  The kisses are always wet, and sometimes I feel like he is attacking my mouth.  To top it off, I never feel the spark.  So I ask you, how do I teach this guy to kiss?

From,

Terry Baby 29

Dating

The Worst First Date Ideas

So in an effort to help folks get over the infamous first date hump, I wanted to share with you readers some major “don’ts” for date one.  This will be a brief list, but I think it will be a good start for some of you.  But if you have any follow-up questions or comments, leave them in the little box below.  Don’t be shy, it’s all anonymous.