relationships

Committing to a Man, that’s Neglected His Commitment to His Child

Before I dive deep into this post, let me first say that this is not a post meant to bash anyone or their parenting abilities necessarily. I’m proud to have created a platform that doesn’t make a habit of judging other people or hurling out insults. However with that said, there are some things I tend to have a very strong opinion about, and relationships between estranged parents and their children is one of them. I probably have such strong opinions because I don’t really have much a relationship with my own father, but that’s a story for a different post. Anyway, let’s go ahead and get started.

friendship

They Aren’t Your Friend!

As I get older and wiser, I’ve come to realize that my dad taught me one of the most valuable lessons in life.  Even though he wasn’t really around when I was growing up, and we aren’t particularly close, he actually passed on some words of wisdom to me that I haven’t forgotten and stand by daily.  About twelve years ago or so, my dad told me, “you may think you have a lot of friends now, but in life you really only have a few friends, and many associates.”  Now if you swap out “associates” for “acquaintances”, this one quote should stir something in your spirit.  And if doesn’t, perhaps you just haven’t reached a place in life when you’ve been hurt by enough people or seen enough things.  But either way, my father had and has an amazing point.

Dating

Is He too Old for Me to Date?

Hey T,

I love what you have here.  I stop by and read the occasional post.  Anyway, I have a question for you.  I’ve been single for a minute, and recently my friend tried to convince me to date outside of my comfort zone.  He said I have nothing to lose, and I agree. So I told him I would finally say yes to this associate of a friend I know, that has been trying to meet up with me for weeks now.  This guy and I were introduced at a house party.  The thing is, I’ve only recently found out that homeboy is 17 years older than me.  I’ve never dated anyone that much older before, and I’m kind of nervous about that.  I keep thinking that’s too old.  T, what do you think? Is 17 years too old?

Still a Youngin

The Lifestyle

Letter to an Absentee Father from an Abandoned Son

Dear Dad,

I want to first off state how weird it is for me to write you this letter.  As a man in his late 20s, I didn’t think I would still have to be dealing with “daddy issues.”  But unfortunately, here I am.  I figured if I wrote you this letter to get it all out, it would somehow be therapeutic for me.  That I would get all my feelings out, and tell you all the things I’ve wanted to say, but never had the courage to say it.   Oh and look, I don’t even expect a response from you.  So no need for you to bother. Welp, here goes nothing.