The Lifestyle

Loving Yourself on Valentine’s Day

Happy Valentine’s Day folks.  Whether you’re in a relationship, situationship, dating, or happily single, I hope today you celebrate love.  Not necessarily love in the romantic sense either.  Look, I’m a big supporter of people using this day to celebrate not only the love they have for their beaus, but also the love they have for friends, family, and others near and dear.  I also believe that people should use today to reflect on the love and admiration they have for themselves.  Self-love is so important; and yet, many people have the hardest time with the concept.


I’m Thicker and Hate it!

Dear T,

I’m just going to put it on the table.  I’m extremely uncomfortable being naked around my partner.  We’ve been together for about 8 months, and I’ve put on about 18 pounds.  Yes 18.  Heck, the number of pants I can fit these days are few.  While on one hand I’m kind of happy about the butt I never had starting to grow, I can’t deal with the extra stomach.  The love handles aren’t sexy to me.  Now my boyfriend says I’m still sexy to him, and even sexier now that there is a little more cushion for the pushin.  Ironically, I don’t feel confident like I use to during sex. I wear a shirt and the lights stay off.  I know I should go on an Herbal Life slim down or something, but what do I do in the meantime.  It took 8 months to put on the weight, so I know it will take some time to lose it.  Appreciate the help.

Gettin Thick

The Lifestyle

Does Size Actually Matter?

Dear T,

This may seem like an age old question, but I would appreciate your take on it.  Does size really matter?  I feel like I’ve had this conversation several times with my friends, and the end result is always the same.  A few of my friends say they can’t deal with anything small poking at them, while others say it’s all about how a guy works it.  But what’s too small and too big?  Just curious to hear what you think.


Just Want Answers


Confidence is Sexy!

Hey T,

I’m going to try and keep this brief. Since social media has become such a big thing now, I’ve become increasingly more insecure. Men are posting pics of themselves with their rippling abs, their superman chests, their Hulk like arms, and their huge legs and butts that can crack walnuts. And then I look at me. Standing at 6’2″, weighing 240, with a medium/large build, a keg for a stomach, and a butt barely visible. Thankfully I’ve been told I have a nice smile and dimples. But honestly, how is a guy like me supposed to catch someone with mini versions of Captain America and the Black Panther walking around out here?


D.C. Marvelous