Dating, relationships

He’s Committed to Me, But Wants to Sleep with Other People

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I have been with this guy for 2 years and we broke up. I was head over heels, I would have done anything for him. He didn’t have to say it but I knew he wouldn’t do the same or couldn’t. He had some demons he needed to take care of.

Well, we were broken up for about a month and we got back together. It’s been a few weeks and things are tremendously better. Everything has been so passionate and intimate, he shows so much affection, he never did before. He told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and he’s never said that to anyone ever.

The problem is, he wants me and him to hook up with other people together. He wants to have more experiences (he’s already had past experiences with ex-girlfriends). I expressed to him I’m not comfortable with it. Just thinking about him sleeping with other people hurts, watching him sleep with somebody else would just rip my heart out.

He doesn’t want to break up, at least not right now is what he says. Both of our personal lives have been going downhill and it’s like we lift each other up. But I know me not wanting him to sleep with other people is a deal-breaker. He wants to see if one of us will come around eventually but I think if we stay together the heartbreak will hurt even worse. Being with him has been so magical, I feel amazing, but I can’t keep this on the back burner until we start having problems or he gets bored with our sex life. Any advice?

-Madison

relationships

Should I Stay with A Partner that Doesn’t Believe in Monogamy?

T,

Would you stay with someone who told you he doesn’t think he can be monogamous?  I’ve been seeing this guy for about 3 months, and he told me he’s not sure if he be with just one person for the rest of his life.  I naturally asked him if he was trying to break up with me.  He told me he didn’t want to breakup, but wanted to know if I’d be okay with him hooking up with someone else from time to time.   He promised it would be with people I don’t know and that he’d always be safe.  I wasn’t sure what to say to him, so I told him to give me some time to think about it. 2 weeks later, and I still don’t know what to tell him.  I really like him, but don’t want to be in an open relationship.  Thoughts?

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Wanting Companionship vs. Wanting a Relationship

Hey there folks! Today I wanted to take a quick minute to discuss relationship seeking.  See, people claim they’ve been searching high and low for a good man to lock down into a relationship.  However, I can’t help but to question some of those that have been on this long quest for true love.  Hear me out on this before you judge.