I need some advice. I’m in a fairly new relationship with this guy who I honestly do love, a lot. But I’m nervous about our sex life going forward. See I’m a top that doesn’t mind playing the other role in a committed relationship. The problem is, not only does my boyfriend not really enjoy the experience of bottoming, I don’t think he can satisfy me as a top.
It’s hard for me to be thrilled about actual sex knowing he doesn’t like bottoming, and it’s visible when we’re in the act. Our sex life isn’t a huge problem now, but I’m nervous it will be.
Wanting to Be Pleased
Given the fact pride season is about to be in full swing, I decided to share some do’s and don’ts for those planning to go. While I won’t pretend this is an exhaustive list, it is one that reflects some things I think are important based on my experiences, or those of folks I know. So let’s jump right on in.
As I’ve already shared in previous posts, when I first came out to my gay bestie, he gave me what I call my “Gay Immersion” course. He educated me on gay social networks like BGC Live and Adam4Adam (BGC/A4A). He introduced me to the good, bad, and ugly of the gay club scene (Gay Clubbing). And he showed me my first gay television shows in Noah’s Arc and The DL Chronicles, and first gay film in Noah’s Arc: Jumping the Broom. Besides the aforementioned things, he also gave me lessons on some slightly more important aspects of gay culture.