You’ve Outgrown Your Friend

Dear T,

How many arguments do you have to have with a friend before you call off the friendship?  It seems like me and my so called bff, argue at least once a month.  And I honestly am sick of wasting the energy and time.  I mean we argue over the dumbest things.  I think the last time we had a disagreement it was because he didn’t like that I was 30 minutes late in meeting him for drinks.  Keep in mind that I was late because there was an accident.  He acted as if I had control over how people drive.  I just can’t keep doing this petty back and forth anymore, especially with someone I’m not even sleeping with.  What should I do here, especially with someone I’ve known for over 12 years?

– Just Enough

friendship, The Lifestyle

Too Much Support!!!!

Dear T,

My best friend is getting on my last damn nerve lately. She was incredibly supportive when I told her I’m gay, but now her support is a little annoying.  Out of nowhere she has started talking to me using gay lingo. It’s like she thought I no longer understood her if she didn’t say things like chile, and hunny, and shady boots.  She also keeps trying to set me up with every gay man she knows of, not knowing anything about the guy other than he’s gay.  I think the most irritating thing is that she now tries to use me as her own personal gaydar.  Every time she dates a new guy, she’s asking me if I think he gets down. So how do I guess check her, without losing a friend or hurting her feelings?

Appreciate the advice,


Dating, friendship

Breaking out of “The Friend Zone”

Hi T,

I have a question for you.  Is it really impossible to get out of the friend zone?  I have this good friend that I’ve been cool with for about 4 years, and I want more than friendship.  When he and I first met, it was at a mutual friend’s birthday party.  I remember initially thinking at that party how sexy he was, and that I wanted to sleep with him bad.  However, we wound up just talking that night and built a really great platonic relationship.  Since then, we’ve been in the friend zone.  And it’s not like I’ve been pining away for him for four years or anything.  I’ve dated other guys, but it’s never worked out with any of them.  He on the other hand, has been in a relationship with some dude for 2 years.  Although, word on the street is his boyfriend has been cheating on him.  I guess that’s beside the point.  Anyway, do you think I should risk our friendship and tell my friend how I feel about him?  I was actually thinking of a plan to tell him about his boyfriend sleeping around on him, comfort him for a week or two, then make my move.  I appreciate the help.


Gay Cleveland Brown.


Supporting What Doesn’t Make Sense!

Dear T,

My best friend has been in a relationship with this guy for about 6 months now, and I can’t stand him.  For the life of me, I cannot understand why they are still together.  There are plenty of reasons for my friend to dump this guy.  For starters, this guy claims to be in between jobs, and has been taking money from my friend for a month.  Then there is the fact that the guy constantly talks to my friend about being too feminine.  When I’m around them both, my friend tries to butch up and be something he’s not.  And to top it all off, dude has cheated on my friend.  I keep telling my friend to dump his ass, but he can’t let him go.  How long am I expected to tolerate this man and not cuss him out?  I appreciate the advice.


Angry Woe

friendship, relationships

“What About Your Friends……”

Dear T,

I have this best friend and we’ve just not been clicking lately.  I’ve been with my current boyfriend for about 8 months, and ever since then my best friend has been distant.  We don’t talk as often, and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen him lately.  And before you think it, I’m not one of those people that get lost in a relationship and completely forget about his friends. My other friendships are just fine.  I talk to my other friends nearly all the time.  I thought maybe my best friend had some issue with my boyfriend, but my bff claims to like him.  Plus, my boyfriend is the nicest guy and gets along with everyone.  What do you think the problem is?  What should I do to get my friend back?


Mysterious Gay