I’m writing you because I’m not exactly sure what I should do in this situation. My boyfriend of 8 months cheated on me. Or at least I think it’s cheating. He came out to his brothers about a year ago, and I guess they were cool about it. Well last weekend, apparently they took him out to a straight club and introduced him to some girl. They were under the impression that they could make him like women. And all my boyfriend can tell me is that after a lot drinks, his brothers dropped him and this girl off back at his place and they had sex. He says he doesn’t remember all they did, but just knows he had sex with her. He claims he told me because he wants to be honest with me. The kicker of this whole situation is that he apologized, but said it’s not really cheating because he’s still gay and that woman was a fluke. Like he’s strictly dickly. I’m just not sure how to process this. What do I do in this situation?
Noticed you give advice on friendship stuff, and was hoping you could drop some nuggets of wisdom my way. Over the past few months I guess, I’ve really not been wanting to hang out in clubs and stuff. So when my friends ask, I’m always finding an excuse as to why I can’t go. Well a couple days back, one of my friends called me out on it. He said I never go out anymore and wondering why I’ve changed up. He kind of made me feel bad. Am I supposed to go clubbing just to please my friends? I mean what would you do? This is not a big deal right now, but just don’t want it to become one. Appreciate the help.
Getting Too Old
I don’t really have a question about dating or relationships, but I have a question nonetheless. When me and my group of friends go out, one of them, who I’ll refer to as X, always gets to drunk. I mean we could all be drinking, but usually without fail X will go too far. When he gets drunk he starts talking very loudly and aggressively with us and strangers. Plus, X gets super flirtatious. Many times he has grabbed some guy’s a$$ or crotch. And often the grabbing is not wanted. Needless to say, his behavior has caused my friends and me to be embarrassed and involved in several altercations. We tried talking to X about his behavior, and he either doesn’t get that he is reckless drunk, or he doesn’t care. What would you do in this situation?