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Should Couples Really Be Trying to Make Lemonade?

For the past week or so, unless you’ve been on the moon, you’ve at least heard snippets of Queen Bey’s Lemonade.  Personally, having listen to the album in its entirety maybe about 700 times, I can’t help but think about the notion of cheating. I don’t mean trying to figure out if Jay Z actually messed around on Beyoncé, and with who. I mean I’ve been thinking about how a true love between two people can survive infidelity. And like many of you, I took the thoughts in my head and shared them with friends, in an effort to have a mini forum on cheating.  While I’m not going to share everything my friends and I discussed, I will summarize in a few points about what stood out to me.

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While He’s Flirting, I’m Jealous

 Dear T,

My damn boyfriend is driving me crazy.  As much as I love him, lately I’ve been wanting to kick his ass.  When I tell you he is biggest flirt, I mean it.  He’ll flirt with members at the gym, employees at the grocery store, waiters at any restaurant, and men on IG.  When I mention the problem I have with his flirting, he always respond the same way.  “Babe you know I’m not cheating, I love you.”  And then my personal favorite, “You know I’m just a natural flirt, it means nothing.  Don’t you trust me?”  I mean I do trust him, but man.  What do you think I should do here?

From,

Angry Bey

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You, Me, and IG Makes Three!

Dear T,

I’ve peeped out your advice a few times now, and like what you’ve had to say. So I decided to hit you up and ask you a question. Lately I’ve been noticing my boyfriend post a lot of pics on Instagram I think are disrespectful to our relationship. He’s posted pics of him flexing shirtless, pics of him from the bathroom after a shower, and even posted one of those eggplant Friday things. Other guys know he’s in a relationship with me (we post ourselves together all the time), but still leave suggestive comments under his photos. And he never checks these guys. He also likes a lot of photos of men he has only met through Instagram. I honestly want to check his DM inbox to see if anything is going on. This all makes me so uncomfortable. How can I stop him from committing all these Instagram fouls?

Signed,

Gonna Choke A Bytch Very Soon

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Before You Tell Him “To the Left, To the Left.”

Dear T,

Would you stay with someone if they cheated on you?  I’ve been with this man for 2 years, and last week he told me while he was at this house party with his boys, he let some little young THOT suck his peen.  When I asked him how could he do that, he copped out and blamed it on the liquor and peer pressure.  No lie, a grown ass man gave me the peer pressure excuse.  However, I will say he seemed genuinely sorry and reassured me he would never do this to me again.  I told my friends what happened, and they all told me to dump him.  I just don’t know if I want to do that, because I still really love him.  So please, hook me up with some advice.

Thanks a bunch,

John Doe13

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This Man Is Not Yours to Have

 Dear T,

I’ve been seeing this man for about 3 months now.  He’s everything I’ve wanted.  He’s cute, has banging body, has a great job, makes me laugh, and the sex with him on a scale from 1 to 10 is an 11.  The only thing is, the guy is married and has no plans in the near future to get a divorce from his wife.  He told me he didn’t want to get a divorce right now because he didn’t want to do that to his two young kids.  However, he always makes himself available to me.  We don’t really go on dates around town, but he comes over to my place often and takes me on trips.  Lately though, I’ve just been feeling our relationship the way it is, isn’t enough.  I want more.  I want to go out in public on dates. I want to be able take pictures with my boyfriend.  I want to roll over in the middle of the night to him sleeping peacefully, instead of him making a mad dash for the exit to get home.  Plus, I’m starting to feel bad for his wife.  I guess I’m writing to ask what do you think I should do?  I’ve asked my friends, but I don’t think they get it.

From,

Oliver Pope