Saw some advice you posted on Facebook, and thought it was pretty enlightening. So I thought I’d write to you about a problem I’ve been having. For the past few months, my sister has been dating this real jerk. When she brings him around family events, he doesn’t speak to anyone. When I’ve been out with him and her at a restaurant or bar, he drinks more than anyone and gets ratchet. And I’m pretty sure he is cheating on my sister. One of my friends said he saw the guy talking really close to some random girl about a week ago. I’m not sure what to say to my sister. In the past when me or my mom tried to tell my sister about her boyfriends, she never listened. She always waited until the assholes broke her heart. Looking forward to your advice.
-Andy No Bravo
I haven’t really talked a lot about my experiences coming out, so I thought I’d start sharing. When I finally came to accept myself for who I truly am after years of denial, depression, and self-hate, I decided that I would slowly start to tell some of those closest to me of my truth. I figured if I’m going to live my adult life the way I want to, I can’t do that by being unauthentic to those I call besties and family. One of the first ones up on my coming out tour was my college bff.
How many arguments do you have to have with a friend before you call off the friendship? It seems like me and my so called bff, argue at least once a month. And I honestly am sick of wasting the energy and time. I mean we argue over the dumbest things. I think the last time we had a disagreement it was because he didn’t like that I was 30 minutes late in meeting him for drinks. Keep in mind that I was late because there was an accident. He acted as if I had control over how people drive. I just can’t keep doing this petty back and forth anymore, especially with someone I’m not even sleeping with. What should I do here, especially with someone I’ve known for over 12 years?
– Just Enough
Dear Younger Self,
Don’t file this away as spam, or as something completely irrelevant. I want you to take time to really think on the words I’m about to share with you. Not because I’ve all of a sudden discovered the answers to all of life’s problems. Or because I desperately want to be another person today. But instead, look at my letter as words of wisdom from a more knowledgeable you. Words to help you to be a little less naive about somethings as you get older. After all besides Jesus, I’m the only that truly knows the real you. Including the “you” that you try to keep hidden and the “you” that you don’t even know exists yet.