Dating, friendship

Breaking out of “The Friend Zone”

Hi T,

I have a question for you.  Is it really impossible to get out of the friend zone?  I have this good friend that I’ve been cool with for about 4 years, and I want more than friendship.  When he and I first met, it was at a mutual friend’s birthday party.  I remember initially thinking at that party how sexy he was, and that I wanted to sleep with him bad.  However, we wound up just talking that night and built a really great platonic relationship.  Since then, we’ve been in the friend zone.  And it’s not like I’ve been pining away for him for four years or anything.  I’ve dated other guys, but it’s never worked out with any of them.  He on the other hand, has been in a relationship with some dude for 2 years.  Although, word on the street is his boyfriend has been cheating on him.  I guess that’s beside the point.  Anyway, do you think I should risk our friendship and tell my friend how I feel about him?  I was actually thinking of a plan to tell him about his boyfriend sleeping around on him, comfort him for a week or two, then make my move.  I appreciate the help.


Gay Cleveland Brown.


You, Me, and IG Makes Three!

Dear T,

I’ve peeped out your advice a few times now, and like what you’ve had to say. So I decided to hit you up and ask you a question. Lately I’ve been noticing my boyfriend post a lot of pics on Instagram I think are disrespectful to our relationship. He’s posted pics of him flexing shirtless, pics of him from the bathroom after a shower, and even posted one of those eggplant Friday things. Other guys know he’s in a relationship with me (we post ourselves together all the time), but still leave suggestive comments under his photos. And he never checks these guys. He also likes a lot of photos of men he has only met through Instagram. I honestly want to check his DM inbox to see if anything is going on. This all makes me so uncomfortable. How can I stop him from committing all these Instagram fouls?


Gonna Choke A Bytch Very Soon

friendship, The Lifestyle

No Homo

Dear T,

I’m having a slight issue with my straight group of friends. I know it’s 2015, but they still say things like “no homo” or “pause” when they make a comment that sounds gay to them. They know I’m gay, and accept me as such, but they still use these terms. Although I wasn’t bothered by this initially, I’m starting to get a little offended now. Do you think I should address my issue with my friends? Or should I just swallow my feelings, and be grateful I have straight friends that accept me for me? Thanks for the help.


Cavs Fan85


Dating Daddy Daycare

Dear T,

How do you feel about dating a guy with two kids? I’ve met this great guy and we’ve been really vibing over the past 2 weeks or so. However, we haven’t been on a date yet because his schedule has been super busy lately. He said his one kid has been sick, and the other one has been having issues at school. And there in lies the problem I guess. I’m nervous that if I start dating this guy and we try to build something, it wouldn’t work because he won’t have time for me. Am I making this a bigger deal than it has to be? Should I just go out with him?

Much appreciation,

No Baby Daddy

The Lifestyle

I Hate Me

Dear T,

They say it’s easier to talk to a stranger, so here I am. I’ve been trying to accept myself as gay, but simply can’t. When I think about the family and friends I’ll lose by being gay I just get depressed. I don’t think I can handle being judged and being an outcast. But at the same time, I’m so tired of being in the closet. Seems like everyone is so happy living their straight lives, and I’m just pretending one day at a time. And with each day it gets harder. Lately I’ve been so confused and just mentally drained, that for the first time I understand suicide. Please don’t think I’m crazy, but it’s like suicide is the emergency escape button in life when there seems to be no good options left. I’m not sure what I’m asking advice on, but hoping you can help me.




Finding A Boo at the Workhouse! Good Idea or Recipe for Disaster?

Dear T,

So I’m really feeling this guy I work with.  He just started working in my office about 3 weeks ago, and since then we’ve just clicked.  We have a ton in common and I can just tell there is crazy sexual chemistry between us.  Honestly, I sometimes get horny sitting at my desk thinking about him.  However, my cousin told me not to get involved with the guy because we work together.  I get what he’s saying, but I really want to pursue something with this guy.  Appreciate the help, and really like what you have going on here with this blog thing.


Bad Romance

Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

Be a Top’s kind of Bottom, and A Bottom’s Kind of Top.

Dear T,

I’m just starting to try this whole gay thing out, and I was wondering if you could offer me some tips.  I’ve been in a two month long relationship, and have yet to have sex.  As I prepare to take that step with my boyfriend, I’m seeking some advice.  Like what advice would you offer to someone that wants to be a great bottom?  And actually, what advice would you offer to someone that wants to be a great top?  I think I have an interest in being versatile.

Thanks for the help,

Gay Virgin96


I Ain’t Saying You a Gold Digger, But Are You Messing with Broke…?

Dear T,

I have a quick question.  What classifies someone as a gold digger?  My friends call me that from time to time because I won’t date anyone that doesn’t have a certain amount of coin.  However, I don’t think that makes me a gold digger.  I think that just makes me a guy that has standards.  But what do you think?


Off The Runway89


Supporting What Doesn’t Make Sense!

Dear T,

My best friend has been in a relationship with this guy for about 6 months now, and I can’t stand him.  For the life of me, I cannot understand why they are still together.  There are plenty of reasons for my friend to dump this guy.  For starters, this guy claims to be in between jobs, and has been taking money from my friend for a month.  Then there is the fact that the guy constantly talks to my friend about being too feminine.  When I’m around them both, my friend tries to butch up and be something he’s not.  And to top it all off, dude has cheated on my friend.  I keep telling my friend to dump his ass, but he can’t let him go.  How long am I expected to tolerate this man and not cuss him out?  I appreciate the advice.


Angry Woe