I’ve got a question for you. Would you allow your cousin to marry a guy you know for a fact is gay? My cousin, who is a female and I’m very close with, just got engaged to this man I know used to mess with one of my of old college roommates, who is a guy. Although these two men were never in a relationship, and this was almost ten years ago, I feel like I should mention to my cousin that her future husband has slept with at least one man. Thoughts?
Stuck with No Answer
Hello good people,
As you can probably tell, I’m in a surprisingly fantastic mood as I write this. I’m still breathing, it’s sunny outside, my book is nearing release (I’ll be talking about that more in detail soon), and Beyoncé has graciously dropped her highly anticipated 6th album. Although I, like her millions of fans across the globe, knew she would be debuting the mysterious Lemonade on HBO, I was rocked by the tragic news of Prince’s passing. I couldn’t, and still can’t, believe music lost such a heavy hitter. I mean in all honesty, Prince had to be the most innovative and prolific musician the world has ever seen. Since his death, I’ve been jamming to hits like “Diamonds and Purples”, “Musicology”, “Let’s Go Crazy”, “Adore”, and of course the classic “Purple Rain”. So in a way, I’ve been mourning the death of a music titan. While I knew a Beyoncé video project was premiering this past Saturday, I wasn’t expecting an album. I kind of thought she would push back the release of an album, and it would be a Prince only weekend (minus the video premiere). However, Bey graciously dropped what may wind up being my favorite album from the Queen ever.
With the rash of state legislatures eager to pass bills that clearly disenfranchise members of the LGBT community, I thought I’d take the opportunity to call BS. While I’m disgusted by the legislative actions of states like North Carolina, Mississippi, and almost Georgia, I can’t say I’m all that surprised. History in the U.S. has countless examples of what happens when this country finally takes steps toward equality for all.
As I’ve already shared in previous posts, when I first came out to my gay bestie, he gave me what I call my “Gay Immersion” course. He educated me on gay social networks like BGC Live and Adam4Adam (BGC/A4A). He introduced me to the good, bad, and ugly of the gay club scene (Gay Clubbing). And he showed me my first gay television shows in Noah’s Arc and The DL Chronicles, and first gay film in Noah’s Arc: Jumping the Broom. Besides the aforementioned things, he also gave me lessons on some slightly more important aspects of gay culture.
Do you think it’s true that thick guys are in? As a thicker guy myself, I would be happy to know this is fact and not fiction. But what do you think?
Thicker than a Snicker
Despite record breaking turnout in some states’ primaries or caucuses, I for one find myself increasingly underwhelmed by this 2016 presidential race. I’m sick of the media talking about Hillary’s emails, I’m tired of the back and forth pettiness between candidates, and I’m beyond over the ignorant and clownish phenomenon that is Donald Trump. To be honest, American politics is slowly becoming a sick joke that I can’t believe is our reality. And I’m left to wonder, where did it all go wrong?
So while I’ve never written about a web series before, I felt compelled to write about the new smash hit About Him. Without hesitation or pause, I can genuinely say that this Signal 23 TV show represents some of the best original programming online. Having only watched two episodes so far, I’ve been thoroughly impressed and entertained.
I haven’t really talked a lot about my experiences coming out, so I thought I’d start sharing. When I finally came to accept myself for who I truly am after years of denial, depression, and self-hate, I decided that I would slowly start to tell some of those closest to me of my truth. I figured if I’m going to live my adult life the way I want to, I can’t do that by being unauthentic to those I call besties and family. One of the first ones up on my coming out tour was my college bff.
So in the past week, I’ve been reminded of a major reason why Trump is seemingly so popular. The ignorance that he spews from his platform, preys on the very fears and ignorance many in America have. His “othering” of Muslims, condemnation of Mexicans and Mexican Americans, and belittlement of women, strikes a chord with the apparent millions of people that treat minorities as a scapegoat for all the turmoil in this country.
Dear Straight People,
It’s 2016, so in the name of progress, please stop “gay shaming.” I’m sure some of you may be confused as to what exactly that is, so let me shed some light on the term. You know those instances when you are in an argument with a guy and the two of you trading jabs, then you hit him with the “shut up with your gay a$$” or “stop being a queen”? Well that’s gay shaming folks. Or perhaps you’ve been guilty of accusing a man you don’t particularly care for of being homosexual because his voice wasn’t the deepest. Or he took too much pride in his appearance. Or he just wasn’t the epitome of masculinity. For the purpose of this conversation, that’s “gay shaming.” And to be honest, playing the “you’re gay” card is getting too old and too tired.