relationships

While He’s Flirting, I’m Jealous

 Dear T,

My damn boyfriend is driving me crazy.  As much as I love him, lately I’ve been wanting to kick his ass.  When I tell you he is biggest flirt, I mean it.  He’ll flirt with members at the gym, employees at the grocery store, waiters at any restaurant, and men on IG.  When I mention the problem I have with his flirting, he always respond the same way.  “Babe you know I’m not cheating, I love you.”  And then my personal favorite, “You know I’m just a natural flirt, it means nothing.  Don’t you trust me?”  I mean I do trust him, but man.  What do you think I should do here?

From,

Angry Bey

relationships

You, Me, and IG Makes Three!

Dear T,

I’ve peeped out your advice a few times now, and like what you’ve had to say. So I decided to hit you up and ask you a question. Lately I’ve been noticing my boyfriend post a lot of pics on Instagram I think are disrespectful to our relationship. He’s posted pics of him flexing shirtless, pics of him from the bathroom after a shower, and even posted one of those eggplant Friday things. Other guys know he’s in a relationship with me (we post ourselves together all the time), but still leave suggestive comments under his photos. And he never checks these guys. He also likes a lot of photos of men he has only met through Instagram. I honestly want to check his DM inbox to see if anything is going on. This all makes me so uncomfortable. How can I stop him from committing all these Instagram fouls?

Signed,

Gonna Choke A Bytch Very Soon

Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

Be a Top’s kind of Bottom, and A Bottom’s Kind of Top.

Dear T,

I’m just starting to try this whole gay thing out, and I was wondering if you could offer me some tips.  I’ve been in a two month long relationship, and have yet to have sex.  As I prepare to take that step with my boyfriend, I’m seeking some advice.  Like what advice would you offer to someone that wants to be a great bottom?  And actually, what advice would you offer to someone that wants to be a great top?  I think I have an interest in being versatile.

Thanks for the help,

Gay Virgin96

relationships

Before You Tell Him “To the Left, To the Left.”

Dear T,

Would you stay with someone if they cheated on you?  I’ve been with this man for 2 years, and last week he told me while he was at this house party with his boys, he let some little young THOT suck his peen.  When I asked him how could he do that, he copped out and blamed it on the liquor and peer pressure.  No lie, a grown ass man gave me the peer pressure excuse.  However, I will say he seemed genuinely sorry and reassured me he would never do this to me again.  I told my friends what happened, and they all told me to dump him.  I just don’t know if I want to do that, because I still really love him.  So please, hook me up with some advice.

Thanks a bunch,

John Doe13

friendship, relationships

“What About Your Friends……”

Dear T,

I have this best friend and we’ve just not been clicking lately.  I’ve been with my current boyfriend for about 8 months, and ever since then my best friend has been distant.  We don’t talk as often, and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen him lately.  And before you think it, I’m not one of those people that get lost in a relationship and completely forget about his friends. My other friendships are just fine.  I talk to my other friends nearly all the time.  I thought maybe my best friend had some issue with my boyfriend, but my bff claims to like him.  Plus, my boyfriend is the nicest guy and gets along with everyone.  What do you think the problem is?  What should I do to get my friend back?

Sincerely,

Mysterious Gay

Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

I’m A Top, You’re a Top! Let’s Make it Work!

Dear T,

So I really like this guy that I’ve been dating for the past month.  We have amazing times together, can talk on the phone for hours, and have a ton in common.  Plus, he has a great job and is fine as sh$t.  Surprisingly, we haven’t had sex yet.  Which leads me to my problem.   He’s a top and he’s under the impression I’m a bottom, or at least verse.  I’ve only bottomed once, and I hated it.  Like I said, I’m really feeling this guy and I’m afraid if he finds out I’m a top too, he’ll drop me.  What do you think I should do?

Thanks in advance,

Hole But No Entry

relationships

I Didn’t Sign Up for the Extra Weight

Dear T,

Over the years my boyfriend has really gotten out of shape. I don’t understand how someone could let themselves go like this. When we first met he was ripped and chiseled. Now he’s sporting a beer gut. I’m no longer attracted to him but I don’t want to break his heart. What should I do?

Signed,

No Fats No Fems

 

Dating, relationships

Can a Old Flame Be My New One?

Dear According to T,

I’m on Round 2 with this guy. We dated a few years ago, but are exploring things again. Last time, he bailed. This time, I want to. Not to “get him back”, but because I feel he is too emotionally stretched to fully engage…especially sexually. I am wrong for wanting to call it quits?

Thanks,

Hates.Recycling

relationships

Spicing Up Sex Life

Dear T,

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and I’m starting to feel a little bored with our sex life. How can I spice things up? I love him and want to make this work, but I’m tired of the usual. Please help.

Sincerely,

Spice Things up