Where’s My Man and Happily Ever After?

Dear T,

I don’t know what it is, but I can’t find a man.  I haven’t been in a relationship going on 4 years now.  Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on dates since my last relationship. But the guys I’ve gone on dates with wound up being a quick fling, or a complete waste of time.  And I’ve tried meeting guys everywhere.  I’ve tried bars, clubs, house parties, and even created profiles on stuff like Grindr, A4A, and Jack’d.  I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong, but do you think you could give me some tips on how to land a boo?


I’m Fine Alone, But Damn

Dating, relationships, The Lifestyle

I’m A Top, You’re a Top! Let’s Make it Work!

Dear T,

So I really like this guy that I’ve been dating for the past month.  We have amazing times together, can talk on the phone for hours, and have a ton in common.  Plus, he has a great job and is fine as sh$t.  Surprisingly, we haven’t had sex yet.  Which leads me to my problem.   He’s a top and he’s under the impression I’m a bottom, or at least verse.  I’ve only bottomed once, and I hated it.  Like I said, I’m really feeling this guy and I’m afraid if he finds out I’m a top too, he’ll drop me.  What do you think I should do?

Thanks in advance,

Hole But No Entry

Dating, relationships

Can a Old Flame Be My New One?

Dear According to T,

I’m on Round 2 with this guy. We dated a few years ago, but are exploring things again. Last time, he bailed. This time, I want to. Not to “get him back”, but because I feel he is too emotionally stretched to fully engage…especially sexually. I am wrong for wanting to call it quits?




Watch Your Mouth

Dear T,

So I’ve been talking to this guy for about three weeks and he won’t kiss me on the lips.  However, he doesn’t mind my lips in other places if you know what I mean.  What do you think is up with this guy?


No Kisses.