I started talking to this guy about two weeks ago, and while on a date this past weekend he revealed to me he is celibate. And he plans to be that way until he has been dating a person for at least 6 months. As someone that happens to really like sex, I asked him some follow up questions. First, I wanted to know if that meant just penetration sex or everything. He said ideally it meant everything but kissing, hugging, and a little groping every now and then. I then asked him if six months was a definite time span or was he flexible. The guy claimed he wasn’t really flexible with the six months. Which leaves me in this bind. I like the dude, a lot actually, but six months is a long damn time without penetration. Especially if I’m not getting any oral play either. Hell, a person can only play with own meat so many times before it gets old. What would you do in this situation?
Not a Hoe, Just a Man
T I’m just going to jump right into this. I’m sick of being single, and I’m tired of being what my cousin calls a serial dater. I thought about this last night, and I haven’t been in a real relationship in almost 3 years. And hell, my last relationship lasted a whopping 4 months. What is it going to take for me to get a bae? I have great career, nice place to live, and like to think I’m cute. Definitely not a boogawolf. And don’t really have hard time getting men to the bed. Just a hard time keeping them there longer than a few weeks. Hoping you can help me out with some words of wisdom or whatever to land a man. Oh and FYI, I already asked my friends what they think I’m doing wrong. They basically said, “man you’re a good catch, the perfect guy is out there for you.” My response was “B$tch where?” Anyway, any help would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance,
Booless in the City.
I have this best friend who I’ve known for 10 plus years. When we are together, we have nothing but kikis and fun. However, when I bring him around my other male friends from college, a flip switches and he becomes a person I don’t care for. Without fail, he makes a point to flirt with all my other male friends. And if he can, sleeps with them. That pisses me off. I don’t understand why there are countless gay men out in the world, and he feels the need to screw my friends. It’s uncomfortable for me. When shit hits the fan, my best friend and other friends look at me crazy. Heck, I’ve actually lost a friendship with one guy because my best friend slept with him. What do you think I should do here?
I’m in a dating situation that seems lopsided. I’ve been talking to this guy for about 6 weeks, and whenever we talk, most of the time it’s because I initiated the conversation. And the few occasions he does text or call me, it’s at night and always winds up being sexual. I try to get to know things about him, and I don’t even think he’s asked me anything about where I went to school or where I grew up. I thought maybe perhaps he is a little bad at dating, so I’ve been trying to be patient with him and stick it out. But my sister told me to cut my losses because the guy is just not that into me. What do you think?
Need to Know
Please don’t judge me, but I think I have a thing for my best friend’s ex. My best friend and this guy broke up nearly 3 years ago, and I hadn’t seen the ex until about 2 months ago. That’s when the guy started working in my office. Since then, we naturally started talking and have even become cool. And my best friend knows this. What he doesn’t know, is that his ex has started flirting with me heavy. And if I’m honest, I like it because I like him. But, my mind keeps telling me that I can’t go there for the sake of my friendship. However, I’m tired of denying my feelings for this guy. Plus, my friend has moved on and has a good man. What do you think I should do?
Playing with Fire
I want to ask you for your opinion on something. I haven’t seen the inside of the theoretical closet in about 5 years. However, I’ve been kicking with this guy lately and I think he is really still in it. He’s not big on going out on dates in public, he introduced me as his friend when we stumbled across one of his old high school buddies, and whenever I go to his place he always has the blinds closed tight and curtains drawn. I really like this man because we click on many levels, but I don’t like to feel like I’m being drug back in the closet. Should I dump this guy, or be patient with him and hope things get better?
Thanks in advance,
Truffle No Butter
When do you know when to start really opening up to a guy you’re dating? I’ve found in the past that when dating someone new, I started revealing too much about myself too fast. I would scare the guys off. However, I don’t believe in being phony for 2 months, then being like “surprise, here’s the real me.” Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
Straight and to the point, how do you tell someone you’re dating they are bad in bed? Been dating this guy for about a month now, and a few days ago we had sex for the first time. He is extremely sexy, great personality, and very real, so I want us to work out. But I don’t know if I can be with someone that is terrible at pleasuring me. Thanks in advance for the advice.
I want to start dating this guy I met about 3 weeks ago, but I’m just a little nervous about doing it. Since we’ve been texting back and forth, I’ve really come to like him. But, I found out that he is bisexual. I know people claim to like both men and women, but I just haven’t bought into that idea. You either like men or you like women. You may be willing to sleep with both sexes, but you have a definitive preference for one or the other. So I guess my hesitation in dating this guy, is that he is still confused as to who he is. I’d rather not waste my time helping him to figure that out. Do you think I should date him or not?
Quick question for you. I’m a man and I’ve started dating men, but I’m slightly confused about the gay dating protocol. Since we are two men, who pays when we go out? I mean when I was dating women, I usually would pay because I grew up thinking that was the gentlemen thing to do. Anyway, your advice is appreciated.