relationships

Should I Put a Ring on It?

Dear T,

                Lately I’ve been thinking about the next step in my relationship.  My boyfriend and I recently celebrated our one year anniversary, and my friends have been joking with me about when I plan to propose?  However, I just don’t know if I’m ready for marriage.  I guess I want advice about when should I take that big step?

Sincerely,

Truly Anonymous.

friendship

“Blurred Lines”

Dear T,

I just found out that my “best friend” has been having sex with my ex-boyfriend.  While my ex and I haven’t been together in about five years, he and I still talk on the phone almost every week.  Heck, his mom still calls me from time to time.  Even though I don’t want him, I can’t help but feel upset that he thought it was okay to sleep with my “best friend.”

I’ve known my “best friend” for about ten years.  I know he can be kind of a man whore, and he has at times crossed boundaries, but he has never crossed boundaries with me.   I’m having a hard time forgiving him, especially because he acts like it was no big deal. 

What am I supposed to do in this situation?  Do I just throw ten years of friendship down the drain?  And what do I do about the ex?

Sincerely,

Pissed and Confused