friendship, The Lifestyle

His Business, Is Not Your Business

Dear T,

I have this female best friend, and over the past three months she has developed a huge crush on this guy we know.  He’s fine, a recent college grad, and charming.  I think he’s a good catch, but I’m pretty sure he’s gay.

Shortly after meeting this guy, my best friend and I became Facebook friends with him.  Since then, he’s been messaging me directly pretty regularly.  We talk about our life goals, our experiences in college, sports, and other things.  While that sounds normal, when we have our Facebook chats it’s usually after 11:00pm.  Also, he uses smiley wink faces in our conversations.  And looking at his Facebook profile, I learned he loves Oprah and Rhianna, and we have multiple friends in common that I know for sure are gay.  So I guess my question here, is do I tell my best friend this guy is gay so she can move on?  Or do I keep the information to myself?

Sincerely,

Trying This Out

Dating, relationships

Can a Old Flame Be My New One?

Dear According to T,

I’m on Round 2 with this guy. We dated a few years ago, but are exploring things again. Last time, he bailed. This time, I want to. Not to “get him back”, but because I feel he is too emotionally stretched to fully engage…especially sexually. I am wrong for wanting to call it quits?

Thanks,

Hates.Recycling

relationships

Spicing Up Sex Life

Dear T,

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now, and I’m starting to feel a little bored with our sex life. How can I spice things up? I love him and want to make this work, but I’m tired of the usual. Please help.

Sincerely,

Spice Things up

Dating

Watch Your Mouth

Dear T,

So I’ve been talking to this guy for about three weeks and he won’t kiss me on the lips.  However, he doesn’t mind my lips in other places if you know what I mean.  What do you think is up with this guy?

From,

No Kisses.

relationships

Should I Put a Ring on It?

Dear T,

                Lately I’ve been thinking about the next step in my relationship.  My boyfriend and I recently celebrated our one year anniversary, and my friends have been joking with me about when I plan to propose?  However, I just don’t know if I’m ready for marriage.  I guess I want advice about when should I take that big step?

Sincerely,

Truly Anonymous.

friendship

“Blurred Lines”

Dear T,

I just found out that my “best friend” has been having sex with my ex-boyfriend.  While my ex and I haven’t been together in about five years, he and I still talk on the phone almost every week.  Heck, his mom still calls me from time to time.  Even though I don’t want him, I can’t help but feel upset that he thought it was okay to sleep with my “best friend.”

I’ve known my “best friend” for about ten years.  I know he can be kind of a man whore, and he has at times crossed boundaries, but he has never crossed boundaries with me.   I’m having a hard time forgiving him, especially because he acts like it was no big deal. 

What am I supposed to do in this situation?  Do I just throw ten years of friendship down the drain?  And what do I do about the ex?

Sincerely,

Pissed and Confused