In love with a guy that has a man but puts me first when I’m around, but says he is leaving the guy. What to do? Lol
-Buck on It
Dear Buck on It,
Thanks for writing to me. I have to say, since this is a rather brief letter, my response is going to be brief as well. While they say actions speak louder than words, you need to look at all the actions in this case. I get this guy may put you first when you’re around, but at the end of the day, he’s not with you.
Look, I don’t mean to be too blunt, but if this man loves you in the same way that you love him, then he wouldn’t be claiming another man as his boyfriend. And I get that when you’re around this guy may make you feel like it’s you and him against the world; but when you’re gone, he’s choosing to be with another man. I read where you said the guy told you he was leaving his boyfriend. However, he hasn’t yet. That speaks volumes.
Suggestions going forward.
- Remember, you deserve to be treated like “the only” not “an option.” You don’t have to sit around and wait for the possibility of this guy to choose you.
- Try dating other people. You’re worth it.
As always nothing but love,
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